My Approach to Helping
Feeling overwhelmed, stressed, stuck in your past while worrying about your future? Navigating through life can sometimes challenge the way you think, creating a variety of unsettling emotions. I offer a safe, non-judgmental space to process hardships and triumphs that create anxiety, depression, and inability to enjoy your life in the present moment. I help you explore your self-worth, find your voice, and create & maintain healthy internal and external boundaries. I counsel people with gender and sexuality issues (LGBTQ, lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, and questioning). Begin processing your past to empower your today!
Specializing in a variety of evidenced-based treatments incorporating mind and body symptoms. Listed as a provider with Strong Star for treatment of trauma. My goal is to help process desperate and painful times, various losses, strained relationships, recovering from abuse, stressful transitional changes, day to day struggles, and work challenges.
Shining the light on your inner strength is my empowerment method! I will work with you to effectively address your personal goals and relational challenges that have kept you from living the life you envisioned. I strive to build on current strengths to help you achieve a more empowered sense of self. I would be honored to take this journey with you!
More Info About My Practice
My office is designed to provide a sense of safety and comfort to explore your emotions. Young Living Essential Oils are diffused for grounding and healing energy. Education regarding the correlation between PTSD, trauma, and the emotions attached is processed in session. The human mind is resilient and I will work with you to manage distressful emotions and guide you towards a healthier state of being.
My View on the Purpose of Psychotherapy
Sometimes your caregivers may not have been accurate in giving you labels for what you were feeling. Perhaps they guessed wrong or made assumptions that weren't accurate. Maybe those around you weren't comfortable with happiness or anger or sadness and so they would tell you that you were feeling a different emotion. In these situations you may not have learned how to label your emotions accurately.
As a child, you didn't know how to label what you felt, so you didn't know if the label others gave you was accurate. Think about your experience. Is it possible that you label excitement as fear? Maybe you label excitement as happiness? Perhaps when you're afraid you express anger and don't recognize the fear? These are just a few ways that you may have learned inaccurate labels for your emotional experiences.
Caregivers and those around you also taught you how to think about emotions. If your family was uncomfortable with emotions, then you probably learned to avoid them as much as possible or to push them down. If your family was comfortable with anger but not with sadness, then you are likely to express anger easily and hide other emotions. What was the message you were given about emotions?
Part of coping effectively with emotions is accurately labeling your emotions. Just knowing what you are feeling acts like a brake on the emotion. It's difficult to regulate emotions if you're pushing them away most of the time. In fact, pushing emotions away and trying not to feel will make it more likely that you?ll act impulsively or experience depression or anxiety.
An important skill to help regulate emotions is to observe and describe emotions. If you can observe and describe your emotions you will be better at regulating them. You'll also learn that you are separate from your emotions. If you can observe what you are feeling, then you are separate from that emotion. When you are separate from your emotions, then you can make choices about whether to act on them or not.
You can also choose to be at one with your emotions. This means that you accept your emotions as part of you. When you are participating in pleasurable activities, this is important. You want to throw yourself into the activity and fully enjoy it.
You can learn to accurately observe and describe your emotions. Being able to observe and describe your emotions means to be able to describe all the components of emotions: the prompting event, any interpretations or judgements or assumptions that occur, the physiological changes in the body, your facial and body expressions of the emotion, the aftereffects of the emotion and the name of the emotion. If you have a secondary emotion, label that too.