My Approach to Helping
Life is too short to go through it suffering, living below your true potential in relationships, work, and school. If previous therapies or medications haven't produced the positive results you want, my unique approach may provide the new and different therapy experience you have been yearning for. My strength as a therapist is my ability to help you see and deal with thoughts, feelings, and behaviors that prevent you from reaching your goals in life and relationships. Therapy with me can help accelerate your growth process so that you can overcome your difficulties and achieve your goals.
For further information on my perspective and specialties, you can feel free to check out my website and read my Topic Expert blog posts. You will find links to all of them when you scroll to the bottom of this profile.
More Info About My Practice
I offer a free 15 minute phone consultation. My initial evaluation session is usually 2 hours, and subsequent sessions are usually 50 minutes.
Specific Issue(s) I'm Skilled at Helping With
I am a generalist practitioner, competent to assist you with a wide range of difficulties in living. I work frequently with people who are feeling stuck or struggling in their careers or important relationships, and also with people experiencing anxiety and depression.
I also have some unique areas of expertise that may be useful to you:
1) "Treatment resistant" conditions-- If medications and/or previous therapy have not helped you resolve your emotional difficulties, my unique approach to therapy may provide you with the new and different experience that you need so you can reach your goals.
2) Medically unexplained physical symptoms-- If you are suffering from physical symptoms (e.g., irritable bowels, migraine, fibromyalgia, etc.) and medical tests and interventions have not provided relief, emotional factors may be contributing. I am trained to diagnose and treat the emotional factors that drive these types of physical difficulties. Please check out my website for more on this specialty.
3) Relationship problems-- If you are struggling with problematic interpersonal patterns at work, with friends and family, or in romantic relationships, you and I can identify the forces driving these problems and, if you wish, help you to overcome them.
4) Extreme emotional states (e.g., psychosis, dissociation)-- I have extensive experience working in inpatient psychiatric settings and have trained under local experts in the treatment of extreme states
My Role as a Therapist
Supporting you is my primary task as your therapist. If you are feeling supported, then I am doing my job. That said, optimal support looks different for every person, at every phase of recovery. Whatever your needs, I will aim to meet you with appropriate support at every phase of your healing process.
Had a Negative Therapy Experience?
Unfortunately, this is all too common. Though all therapists, myself included, are doing their best and trying to be helpful, many lack the advanced training and skills to access and address the deeper roots of people's difficulties. I constantly study and train to keep myself on the cutting edge of clinical science, with the hope of being effective in situations where other therapists get stumped.
Am I a perfect therapist? Certainly not! But I am persistent, and highly skilled at working with thoughts, feelings, and behaviors that interfere with success in therapy. I am optimistic that if we put our efforts together we may create a new and different experience that will help you understand and overcome whatever kept your previous therapy experiences from being helpful. If you're thinking of giving therapy another shot, we can work together to help you get a better, more satisfying result.
Important Factors for Choosing a Therapist
I do not give advice or give people specific instructions about how to be, act, think, feel, or behave. That will never happen in your therapy with me. This does not mean you should not ask me for advice or let me know when you are wanting advice--we all get that impulse sometimes, and it would be very important not to censor that impulse in our therapy. I simply mean that in response to a request for advice from me, I will work with you to find an answer from within yourself that satisfies you. Many of us have psychological blocks that prevent us from tapping into our own self-knowledge and our own problem-solving abilities, and this can put us in a position where we are dependent on the advice of others, sometimes to our detriment. This can easily happen with therapists, leading to prolonged therapies in which the person becomes dependent on the therapist's counsel rather than becoming increasingly independent and able to counsel themselves. By choosing not to directly respond to requests for advice or instructions, I try to provide you with the opportunity to uncover the blocks you have around being your own best advisor, which may give you a chance to overcome those blocks and develop your capacity to develop and listen to your own internal GPS. The goal of therapy is to learn to become a good therapist to yourself, so that you can eventually provide yourself with reliable advice and support; otherwise you would need a therapist to follow you around 24/7! A therapist providing advice and specific instructions would rob you of the chance to learn about and overcome the problems you have had in becoming your own best therapist and advisor, and would encourage a kind of co-dependence on the therapist, which I believe is unethical; however, I do know that some therapists provide advice and specific instructions, and if that is all you want, you will be better off seeing someone who does that. If you want to learn about why you are having trouble giving yourself guidance and following your own GPS, and if you want to develop your capacity to become a reliable guide to yourself, we are more likely to be a good fit.
Importance of the Client-Therapist Alliance
Teamwork is an essential aspect of success in many areas of human life, and therapy is no exception. In order to optimize your experience and results, you and I can collaboratively monitor and discuss the quality of our alliance. We will aim to create a therapy environment in which you feel the safety and support that you will need in facing the emotional forces driving your suffering. It is my hope that our bond will provide the warmth and energy that you need to overcome your difficulties.
It is worth saying, though, that barriers to teamwork in relationships and at work are often the very problems that bring us to therapy in the first place. Inevitably, these interpersonal patterns that block collaboration will pop up in our therapy relationship. When this happens, my job is to help you notice the thoughts, feelings, and behaviors that interrupt our alliance, and support you as you examine the costs and benefits of these relationship behaviors. If you want to overcome the tendencies that inhibit you from connecting and collaborating with others, I am here to help you get to the bottom of where these patterns come from and learn new and different relationship strategies.