My Approach to Helping
My work is very much based on the notion that therapy is most useful when it helps the person become who they are. The idea is that much of our distress is caused by our not being our authentic self and that gives rise to our distress. It's a matter of breaking free from societal norms and expectations and being comfortable with who you are at a deeper level, what it truly feels to be you and respecting that so that you live in a way that is constructive for you and your relationships.
Inevitably this approach leaves us feeling more engaged with ourselves, the world around us, and the people that we connect with. It's not an easy process as it inevitably stirs up feelings we'd rather not have But it's the only way that we can deal with those feelings, and of course I'm there to provide guidance and a sense of safety. Patients are generally surprised by how much better it is for them to feel, often for the first time, their true, unencumbered selves. They no longer feel like they are fighting off unpleasant feelings as much as they free of them. They can then turn their attention to enjoying a more pleasant, fulfilling life.