My Approach to Helping
After working with 100s of clients over 35 years, I've gotten good at predicting who will succeed, and who won't. It's a simple formula:
The people make the most progress work the hardest between sessions.
That's it. That's the formula for success in any endeavor worth doing. I will help you take action, and keep up the momentum, so as you learn new habits, you keep building on them, until they become second nature.
Working with me is a lot like working with a personal trainer. You tell me the changes you want to make, and we design a a program that gives you the tools you need, to make the changes you want, and maintain them.
You'll definitely get a good workout during your sessions. But your success will depend on how hard you work between sessions--when I'm not around.
You can expect me to...
Tell you what I really think
Hold you accountable
Insist you do your homework
Don't expect me to:
Sit and nod
Agree with you all the time
Put up with bullshit
Work harder than you do
So no matter what you're struggling with, from the moment you sit down, we will get to work.
If you're struggling with depression or anxiety, I can teach you techniques that will help you break free from mental looping. If you're struggling with indecision, your program will include a daily practice of decision-making. Whatever you wish you could be doing can be broken down into discrete, doable tasks that will help you build confidence and skill, and give you the practice you'll need to stay on the right path.
Office location: From May through November, I see clients in my office in Minnetonka, MN. But I also do ONLINE COACHING WORLDWIDE year round.
More Info About My Practice
“Betsy has helped me grow so much over the time I have seen her. From the first session, I knew she was going to be different than other therapists. In our first meeting she said, “Can I be frank with you?” and I thought YES!!”
“My time and money are precious so I’m interested in more than just a conversation. I’m interested in REAL progress. This means some tough work on my part, but Betsy was there to support me and hold me up when I felt like I couldn’t do it. She cared enough to challenge me because she believed I could be more, and she was right.”
“Betsy’s wisdom and no bullsh** approach were refreshing and life changing. While my regular sessions ended years ago (she said I graduated), Betsy is amazing and I will always call her when I need help.” – C.W., Counseling client
"I appreciate how "real" you are, and how you're able to capture the essence of an issue, instead of getting lost in the symptoms or outer layers."
"We got more out of our first session with Betsy than we did in 3 years of counseling with another therapist.
"You didn't turn away, judge, or silence me when things got uncomfortable or difficult."
"Being with Betsy was always like getting a great mental flossing. I always left sessions with more to think about."
"Just a quick update...things are going FABULOUS! It is like I am living with a totally different person...well, the person I fell in love with!! He's back!! Truly amazing...I am grateful to you every day!!"
"My husband and I were talking about you tonight. You did amazing things for us. We've had a great couple of months realizing how much we love each other. Couples like us could put you out of business!"
"After our first session, my husband said 'This is the most hopeful I've felt in ages.' Thanks, Betsy!"
"You are not just helping the two of us, you're helping us give our beautiful girls the gift of a peaceful, happy home that they can feel loved in. I thank you for that! "
"We worked hard, but you gave us the tools. Without them, we could have worked just as hard and gotten nowhere--except maybe divorced."
"Thank you for your intense curiosity, intelligence, humor, and compassion."
"Thank you for all you have done, and all that you do. I believe your work is truly PRICELESS! I hope you know how much it is appreciated."
"Betsy pulled the truth from an ocean of craziness."
"Hi Betsy! Our kids love the OuchKit. So do we all! They come in quite handy here, as we 'Ouch' each other on a regular basis. :)"
Credentials and Experience:
Email and Phone Sessions: I also I offer email and phone sessions for people who travel a lot, live out of state, or have trouble getting to my office. I can usually return calls within a couple of hours.
Important Factors for Choosing a Therapist
Working with me is a lot like working with a personal trainer. You show up. We figure out what you want and what's holding you back. Then we come up with an action plan with bite-sized, doable tasks for you to take between sessions, so you're always making progress, even when I'm not around.
What I Say to People Concerned about the Therapy Process
A word to the uninitiated client: Don?t risk having a bad experience when you're already feeling lousy. Remember: We work for you. A thoughtful therapist will always talk to you for a few minutes on the phone before you schedule an appointment.
If you get a bad feeling on the phone, move on. The right therapist for you is the one you feel good rapport with.
When you make the first call, ask for a call back. I wouldn?t make an appointment with a therapist unless she she called me back and I got a good feeling from the conversation. You shouldn?t either.
All of the research on what makes the difference between successful vs. unsuccessful therapy (as defined by clients, not therapists) rates rapport, a sense of ?fit? between client and therapist as key to any successful therapy experience.
If you want action, choose a therapist who focuses on taking action. If you want someone who understands your particular kind of situation, look for someone whose profile describes a focus on?and experience working with your situation.
Bottom line: Don?t settle for a so-so therapist. Therapy probably isn?t going to feel like a warmbath. But you should leave each session with things to both think about?and do between sessions?to get you moving in the right direction.