My Approach to Helping
What will you do with your one, wild and extraordinary life?
How you spend it, and who you spend it with is up to you. So make those decisions carefully. The quality of your life depends on it.
If you’re looking for someone to hold your hand, and take your money week after week (even if you do nothing between sessions), you may feel supported, but you won’t make much progress.
Great things happen to those who work hard. So let’s get started.
I can teach you how to have remarkable, rich, and rewarding relationships that will sustain you for a lifetime. I’ve helped hundreds of clients improve their ability to communicate more effectively, even under adverse conditions and in difficult relationships.
About Betsy Sansby, MS, LMFT:
Betsy Sansby is an award-winning, marriage and family therapist who’s been coaching couples and families for over 35 years. In 2018, she received Thervo’s “Best Family Therapist Award,” and in 2016, she received the Open-Care Patients’ Choice Award, an award given to those therapists across North America who have received the highest star-ratings and independent reviews.
For the past three decades, Betsy has been creating what psychologist, John Grohol, has described as “simple to use, but profoundly-effective” communication tools. Each of her tools makes it easier for clients to practice what they’re learning in their sessions, after they leave her office.
Betsy’s articles have appeared in The Ladies' Home Journal and Redbook Magazine. and you can read her blog posts on Good Therapy, Quora, and ExpressYourselfEcards.com.
Betsy was recently profiled in The Lake Minnetonka Magazine, in an article that focused on her improbable--and mildly heroic--journey as the non-tech-saavy creator of a communication app for theiPhone and iPad, Although she designed the Express Yourself ECards. app as a communication tool for couples in her therapy practice, the app is now available to anyone as a free download at the App Store.
More Info About My Practice
“Betsy has helped me grow so much over the time I have seen her. From the first session, I knew she was going to be different than other therapists. In our first meeting she said, “Can I be frank with you?” and I thought YES!!”
“My time and money are precious so I’m interested in more than just a conversation. I’m interested in REAL progress. This means some tough work on my part, but Betsy was there to support me and hold me up when I felt like I couldn’t do it. She cared enough to challenge me because she believed I could be more, and she was right.”
“Betsy’s wisdom and no bullsh** approach were refreshing and life changing. While my regular sessions ended years ago (she said I graduated), Betsy is amazing and I will always call her when I need help.” – C.W., Counseling client
"I appreciate how "real" you are, and how you're able to capture the essence of an issue, instead of getting lost in the symptoms or outer layers."
"We got more out of our first session with Betsy than we did in 3 years of counseling with another therapist.
"You didn't turn away, judge, or silence me when things got uncomfortable or difficult."
"Being with Betsy was always like getting a great mental flossing. I always left sessions with more to think about."
"Just a quick update...things are going FABULOUS! It is like I am living with a totally different person...well, the person I fell in love with!! He's back!! Truly amazing...I am grateful to you every day!!"
"My husband and I were talking about you tonight. You did amazing things for us. We've had a great couple of months realizing how much we love each other. Couples like us could put you out of business!"
"After our first session, my husband said 'This is the most hopeful I've felt in ages.' Thanks, Betsy!"
"You are not just helping the two of us, you're helping us give our beautiful girls the gift of a peaceful, happy home that they can feel loved in. I thank you for that! "
"We worked hard, but you gave us the tools. Without them, we could have worked just as hard and gotten nowhere--except maybe divorced."
"Thank you for your intense curiosity, intelligence, humor, and compassion."
"Thank you for all you have done, and all that you do. I believe your work is truly PRICELESS! I hope you know how much it is appreciated."
"Betsy pulled the truth from an ocean of craziness."
"Hi Betsy! Our kids love the OuchKit. So do we all! They come in quite handy here, as we 'Ouch' each other on a regular basis. :)"
Credentials and Experience:
Email and Phone Sessions: I also I offer email and phone sessions for people who travel a lot, live out of state, or have trouble getting to my office. I can usually return calls within a couple of hours.
My Role as a Therapist
Think of me as your relationship fitness coach. You show up. We figure out where your strengths are, and where you need improvement. No judgments about your current state.. Only a focus on improving your relationship fitness by increasing your ability to clarify your thoughts and feelings, and express them more clearly and effectively. .
Then we get started. For the past 35 years, I?ve been
What I Say to People Concerned about the Therapy Process
A word to the uninitiated client: Don?t risk having a bad experience when you?re already feeling lousy. Remember: We work for you. A thoughtful therapist will always talk to you for a few minutes on the phone before you schedule an appointment.
If you get a bad feeling on the phone, move on. The right therapist for you is the one you feel good rapport with.
When you make the first call, ask for a call back. I wouldn?t make an appointment with a therapist until I had spoken to her on the phone. You shouldn?t either.
All of the research on what makes the difference between successful vs. unsuccessful therapy (as defined by clients, not therapists) rates rapport, a sense of ?fit? between client and therapist as key to any successful therapy experience.
If you want action, choose a therapist who focuses on taking action. If you want someone who understands your particular kind of situation, look for someone whose profile describes a focus on?and experience working with your situation.
Bottom line: Don?t settle for a so-so therapist. Therapy probably isn?t going to feel like a warmbath. But you should leave each session with things to both think about?and do between sessions?to get you moving in the right direction.