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How Does Codependency Affect Us as Adults?
September 24, 2010 .
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How does growing up in a dysfunctional family affect us as adults? For adult children of addicts, the behaviors and beliefs that enabled us to survive as children can cause us a myriad ... Read More
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After the Affair: Should I Stay or Should I Go? September 19, 2010 . 14 Comments
One of the most arduous decisions you may ever have to make is whether to stay married to someone who has cheated on you. For many people, the decision to not stay in the marriage is pretty ... Read More
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Constructive Wallowing and Self-Esteem
September 15, 2010 .
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What do you do when you feel bad? You may clean your house, take a walk, or binge on sweet or salty foods depending on who you are and what habits you’ve developed. Does whatever ... Read More
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Mindfulness: Untying Knots in the Body, Mind, and Heart September 9, 2010 . 8 Comments
“It feels heavy right here,” Rebecca* said, crying and touching her chest, “like a huge rock is sitting on me. It’s like that old cartoon, where a boulder would fall off a cliff ... Read More
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‘My Child Is Cutting’: Understanding Self-Harm
September 9, 2010 .
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Cutting is the physical expression of hidden mental pain. Children may begin cutting or engaging in other forms of self-harm when their mental pain reaches a level that they can no longer ... Read More
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Trauma’s Impact on Relationships: Part II
September 7, 2010 .
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Communication and trust are key ingredients in any relationship, yet are often negatively impacted by the effects of a traumatic experience. Trust The very nature of trauma can shatter ... Read More
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Trauma as a Seed of Depression
September 3, 2010 .
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In my practice, people trace depression back to trauma most of the time. Emotional trauma is an overwhelming shock to a person’s equilibrium. Trauma might be linked to an emotional, physical, ... Read More
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How to Create a Strong, Satisfying Relationship September 3, 2010 . 8 Comments
Slow down and listen. When we communicate, sometimes we ignore what our partner is saying. Instead of focusing on our partner, our thoughts are consumed with what we plan to say next. ... Read More
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Bird Nesting: Advantages and Disadvantages of this Custody Option
September 3, 2010 .
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Parents often ask me to describe what options they have for their post-divorce living arrangements. In addition to the many ways it is possible for children go back and forth between two ... Read More
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Communication Modes: The Benefits of Being Assertive
August 23, 2010 .
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When we relate to others, there are three modes we can utilize. However, most of us probably predominantly behave and communicate in one of these modes. Submissive mode is a way of communicating ... Read More
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Parenting for Healthy Self-Esteem
August 16, 2010 .
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Self-esteem is a relational term. It describes a relationship between you and yourself. Having a solid sense of esteem for yourself puts you squarely in a partnership that is nurturing ... Read More
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Social Networking and Sex Addiction Challenges
August 12, 2010 .
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Social Networking is a great way to connect with so many individuals! It connects you with your family, friends from the past, current friends, and even allows you to make new friends. ... Read More