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When Emotional Primacy Strays: The Many Shades of Infidelity February 25, 2015 . 14 Comments
Several years ago, I was eating an ice cream cone on the patio of a walking mall under a summer azure sky when I noticed a woman sitting alone at a table adjacent to mine. I recognized ... Read More
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After 32 Years, I’m Ready to Leave My Wife and Take a Chance January 16, 2015 . 316 Comments
Thank you for reaching out and asking these important questions. I appreciate how hard it is to ask for help and I’m really glad you did. I am going to share my thoughts on your situation ... Read More
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I Was Once My Husband’s Mistress. Now I Can’t Trust Him! December 5, 2014 . 71 Comments
Thanks for your question. Six years is a long time to be living with this kind of uncertainty! And not only is this situation more common than you might realize, but the concept of certainty, ... Read More
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Repairing Infidelity Begins with Asking Why It Happened November 25, 2014 . 15 Comments
The act of infidelity raises many questions. The questions are mainly generated by the hurt partner and directed toward the unfaithful partner. Unfortunately, not nearly enough questions ... Read More
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Could Your Marriage Survive an Affair? November 10, 2014 . 23 Comments
I never thought of myself as someone who could survive an affair. Like most folks, I’ve thought, “We’d be done, there’s no way I could ever get over it.” I ... Read More
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‘Bonus Sex’ with an Ex: Frisky Business or Risky Business? October 30, 2014 . 9 Comments
Picture this: You’re attending a rather wild party by yourself, without your current partner, and you’ve had quite a bit to drink. And then he or she walks in; your former lover who ... Read More
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How to Talk to Your Partner about Your Affair October 22, 2014 . 11 Comments
The initial aftermath of affair exposure is a critical time in the life of an intimate relationship. What you say or don’t say can make a big difference in the outcome of your partnership. Let’s ... Read More
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How Can I Trust after My Girlfriend and Friend Betrayed Me? October 3, 2014 . 10 Comments
Thanks for writing in. Gosh, I’m sorry you’ve been through such an emotionally brutal experience. I can’t imagine the blow of losing a girlfriend and an allegedly good friend at once, ... Read More
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Divorce Without Remorse: When Your Ex Won’t Apologize September 22, 2014 . 178 Comments
I see it all the time in my work with divorcing people: the anger, bitterness, and frustration felt when one partner betrays or deceives the other with little or no remorse for their actions. If ... Read More
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The Formula for Affair Repair: Time, Trust, and Discomfort September 18, 2014 . 16 Comments
You find yourself in a fraught situation: your partner has just learned about your affair. Feelings of panic, anxiety, fear, shame, and guilt overwhelm you. You aren’t sleeping well, ... Read More
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5 Steps to Getting Over a Breakup September 15, 2014 . 30 Comments
Going through a breakup is one of the most difficult experiences we can have. Heartache, grief, and confusion, mixed with feelings of powerlessness or even betrayal, can bring out the crazies ... Read More
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My Wife Wants an Open Marriage. I Don’t. Now What? August 29, 2014 . 346 Comments
Thanks for your question. I can only imagine your bewilderment and confusion; things are humming along fine and suddenly, out of nowhere, your wife is asking you to play the “keys in ... Read More