Infidelity / Affair Recovery

Several years ago, I was eating an ice cream cone on the patio of a walking mall under a summer azure sky when I noticed a woman sitting alone at a table adjacent to mine. I recognized ... Read More

Thank you for reaching out and asking these important questions. I appreciate how hard it is to ask for help and I’m really glad you did. I am going to share my thoughts on your situation ... Read More

Thanks for your question. Six years is a long time to be living with this kind of uncertainty! And not only is this situation more common than you might realize, but the concept of certainty, ... Read More

The act of infidelity raises many questions. The questions are mainly generated by the hurt partner and directed toward the unfaithful partner. Unfortunately, not nearly enough questions ... Read More

I never thought of myself as someone who could survive an affair. Like most folks, I’ve thought, “We’d be done, there’s no way I could ever get over it.” I ... Read More

Picture this: You’re attending a rather wild party by yourself, without your current partner, and you’ve had quite a bit to drink. And then he or she walks in; your former lover who ... Read More

The initial aftermath of affair exposure is a critical time in the life of an intimate relationship. What you say or don’t say can make a big difference in the outcome of your partnership. Let’s ... Read More

Thanks for writing in. Gosh, I’m sorry you’ve been through such an emotionally brutal experience. I can’t imagine the blow of losing a girlfriend and an allegedly good friend at once, ... Read More

I see it all the time in my work with divorcing people: the anger, bitterness, and frustration felt when one partner betrays or deceives the other with little or no remorse for their actions. If ... Read More

You find yourself in a fraught situation: your partner has just learned about your affair. Feelings of panic, anxiety, fear, shame, and guilt overwhelm you. You aren’t sleeping well, ... Read More

Going through a breakup is one of the most difficult experiences we can have. Heartache, grief, and confusion, mixed with feelings of powerlessness or even betrayal, can bring out the crazies ... Read More

Thanks for your question. I can only imagine your bewilderment and confusion; things are humming along fine and suddenly, out of nowhere, your wife is asking you to play the “keys in ... Read More