Erotomania is a delusion that occurs when a person strongly believes—despite evidence to the contrary—that a person is in love with him or her. The target is often a celebrity, politician, or other high-status person, but people with erotomania may also develop fixations on random strangers and acquaintances. Erotomania has also been termed de Clerambault’s syndrome, after the French psychiatrist who identified the behavior.
Erotomania is not a stand-alone psychiatric diagnosis. In some cases, people with erotomania may be diagnosed with a delusional disorder. According to the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual (DSM), in order to be diagnosed with a delusional disorder the delusions cannot be due to the effects of a drug or other medical condition, and the person cannot be previously diagnosed with schizophrenia. The person cannot demonstrate strange/bizarre behavior except for the delusions. Erotomania may also be a symptom of other psychiatric conditions, such as schizophrenia.
What are the Symptoms of Erotomania?
The primary symptom of erotomania is an unassailable belief that another person is in love with you. Common behaviors associated with erotomania include:
- The belief that the target is sending secret messages to you. A person with erotomania, for example, might believe that a television news anchor uses a secret code to communicate with him or her.
- Obsession with the perceived “secret admirer” that may include stalking, letter-writing, and other attempts to make contact—even if this contact is unwanted by the target.
- The belief that the target is in love with the person despite all evidence to the contrary. If the target takes out a restraining order, the person with erotomania might believe this is a secret message encouraging him or her to pursue even more forcefully.
Is There Treatment for Erotomania?
Antipsychotic medication can effectively treat erotomania in some cases. Medication is usually combined with psychotherapy. In some instances, people with erotomania may stalk or otherwise threaten the person of their affection and hospitalization may be warranted.
Erotomania in Popular Culture
Many celebrities have been victims of erotomaniac fantasies. For example, David Letterman and the astronaut Story Musgrave were both stalked by the same person with erotomanic delusions. John Hinckley, Jr., the man who attempted to assassinate President Ronald Reagan is reported to have had erotomanic delusions toward Jodie Foster, and may have attempted the assassination out of misguided desire to communicate with or impress the actress. A minority of people with erotomania may attempt to injure or kill people who they perceive as standing in the way of their relationship with the object of their affection—this has been sensationalized in films such as Fatal Attraction.
American Psychological Association. APA concise dictionary of psychology. Washington, DC: American Psychological Association, 2009. Print.
Last Updated: 01-17-2018
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JohnJuly 3rd, 2015 at 11:58 PM
This disorder is very disabling at times. It fringes on O.C.D., but it can drive a person to utter and complete frustration because one believes that the thoughts’ they’re having are realistic when their is no basis in reality that such fantasies’ are or can become true. There are people with this disorder that exhibit the qualities’ and primary symptoms’ of erotonomia, but don’t act on these thoughts’. Rather they isolate, like someone with other disorders’ instead of acting on the thoughts’ as to avoid behaving irresponsibly.
SherrillAugust 24th, 2015 at 4:23 PM
I’m pretty sure a very good friend of mine has this delusional disorder. Her live in boyfriend broke up with her at least 5 years ago or more and even tho he has been living with someone else for quite some time now and shows no intetest in my friend, she insists he is coming back to her and even thinks he will propose. Even tho some of her friends and family have told her he is not coming back she will not beleive us. We have tried to get her to seek professional help but it doesnt appear that she has. We are thinking of doing an intervention. Would that help at all?
Any advice you have will be appreciated.
Mahlah J TDecember 23rd, 2017 at 2:54 PM
I’m pretty sure my daughter father friend has this he is obsessed with me he got my number and been calling and texting me for years I got my number change and he look at my daughter’s father phone and got my new number it’s really stressful I just want him to stop I tell him to stop I don’t like him and never gave him that impression he said i do like him stop lying I see I’m gonna have to press charges now
say soMarch 31st, 2018 at 12:10 AM
Advice is…. dump your friend. a mental illness never occurs singly. its not your fault your friend is sick.
RobertFebruary 6th, 2016 at 8:34 AM
My wife left me last year because she was sure a national rock star was going to propose marriage to her. When that did not happen, she used the episode as a sign that some ‘perfect’ love as she HAS for him exists out there for her.
GwynethApril 7th, 2016 at 10:10 AM
Omygat. I think I have Erotomania. O_O I knew something was wrong with me.
Fangirls usually suffer from erotomania right? Or is it just me?
ErotomaniacJuly 31st, 2016 at 7:59 PM
No I have it too!!🤔😫
Jane lJuly 15th, 2017 at 6:34 AM
Hi I knew there was something not quiet right with me, half an hour ago my son shouting out for the world to listen omg !!! Now the calm is here,,, bang looked it up EROTOMANIA gutted, doctors defo Monday early doors., what next can go wrong in my little life I lost my sisters ,,,1 my twin. End I’m a recovering alcoholic of 8 years not had a easy ride ,,, gutted I wouldn’t hurt a fly ,,give you my last then i m without.
MollyApril 17th, 2016 at 7:15 AM
@Gwyneth I’m also a fangirl. And yes, I’m afraid that I have it too, that’s why I came here searching for delusional and eromaniac disorders. The delusion happens to me quite often, but after that I was like “wtf i was thinking”. And now I’d like to find treatments for not having any delusional thoughts again. *sorry for the bad english*
SherriSeptember 28th, 2016 at 8:35 PM
It took me a long time to find a therapist that knew about this she specializes in trauma and does EMDR. She told me the treatment is the same as treating the other trauma issues I have such as refraining my thoughts. She also said there is a whole spectrum of this disorder and not to be freaked out by some of these celebrity stocker stories.
ShivohnApril 27th, 2016 at 3:50 AM
@Gwyneth @Molly same as me lol
DickMay 15th, 2016 at 8:32 AM
This is a really sad disease, I have a ruined relationship with my sons mom. Be cause she believes a Seattle Rock legend is in love with her. And they play games at night online. And he sends her secret messages. About going to leave his wife. And marry her, she’s his true love and next time his concert comes to town. He’s going to wisk her away, but will take care of our son and I financially. It’s crazy! And breaks my heart. The love of my life tells me she’s sorry, but her and this singer Are in love, and she can’t be with me anymore. She really needs help. :(
JimOctober 25th, 2016 at 9:40 PM
I have a similar situation. Which guy is it?
DickOctober 27th, 2016 at 6:17 PM
Chris Cornell, since writing my comment. She was contacted by the FBI, and told she was scaring him and his family. And to please stop. She still thinks he’s testing her. I gave up. She hasn’t been with us in 9 months. Life goes on. Good luck to you
R wallaceApril 16th, 2017 at 8:16 AM
Dear Dick, can you please describe these online games and secret codes she says they are sending at night? What specifically is this guy doing that leads her to believe it is a message for her? Please get back to me on this it is very important, I would like to discuss this.
JimMay 27th, 2017 at 12:21 AM
Well, since he passed away, hopefully they will break this delusion and come back to reality
JudithNovember 16th, 2017 at 9:52 AM
My husband has thought he and a famous female singer are man and wife since I married him 14 years ago,it seemed he had got over it for a while but now he lives alone and won’t have sex with me or even kiss or cuddle me because of her,for five years !to others he blames me,but I caught him out as asked to buy him a wedding ring and for second time he refused,he’s a paranoid schizophrenic,my heart is broken,there is no help for us,the abandoned other halves
SmileSeptember 13th, 2016 at 1:20 AM
What happens if after a while the object of affection reciprocates some feelings to the patient?
Can these delusions be termed as love then?
And can the patient lead a normal life with his/her object of fascination?
MattyOctober 12th, 2016 at 2:27 PM
I have this, and it freaks the hell out of me. it’s a completely different feeling to just being attracted to someone. I can never have spoken to them, just shared a glance, then that’s it, they are clearly crazy about me, in my head. I know as i am thinking these things in the back of my head that it’s rediculous and how completely f****** crazy this is and i just try to ignore it, which is nie impossible sometimes. I am a good looking guy and i think that makes it worse, in the past i have actually been able to hook up or go out with these people but then so quickly i get to know them and the infatuation passes and i am left thinking, why the hell was i so obsessed with making yo like me…? i don’t even really find you attractive anymore and it’s been like three days or a week. I try to reflect on that and try not to let it affect my behavior to the point of avoiding people i feel like this for. It sucks and i want it to stop. Does anyone know how to gt this under more control at least? i am guessing acting on these impulses is just feeding the flames right?
SheaNovember 6th, 2016 at 9:20 PM
I want to die. I’ve been suffering from erotomania for years since I hit puberty and I cannot make a life because I’m so obsessed and focus on love.
It didn’t help that I don’t have a job, no friends, hate where I live.
I just want to die
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R wallaceApril 16th, 2017 at 8:19 AM
Shea, me too, I can’t take it anymore. I need to die, I know how you feel.
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SaurabhNovember 26th, 2016 at 10:08 PM
I have also been sufferd by this dilusional disorder, but now then she (victim) has leave me completely… And im aware about this dicese… Im trying to move on in my life…
When she got engaged with a other man. i was a huge shock…. I was unable to sleep for 72 hours, its very hard to move on in these conditions….
I have join a religious institution and I am practicing some yoga practices to get out of this dilusional disorder……
Lien SunDecember 12th, 2016 at 2:46 AM
I am in love with a man who is a victim of an erotomanic stalker. She is destroying his life, his sanity, his family and our relationship. She is threatening to kill him and his child. This is a terrible illness and apparently the delusions can go on for years and years.
AdrianaDecember 1st, 2019 at 4:27 PM
Did you find a way out of this? I hope só. I am in the same situation as you.
ErotomaniacDecember 16th, 2016 at 9:06 PM
I had this problem too, I became obsessed with someone (a stranger) and I thought he loved me even though he did not. It almost ruined my relationship with my actual real boyfriend, thank god I was put on the right medication in time and I came to my senses.
AP_ErotomaniaMarch 14th, 2018 at 8:28 AM
How did you came out of Erotomania? what kind of therapy you did and how long it took for you to come out. Please let me know.
IsDecember 21st, 2016 at 8:46 AM
I often times feel like certain celebrities I admire and genuinely like can see me and I have great feelings of superiority when I have this feeling. Like, they actually like me and think I’m cool. I could be outside and I feel them “watching” me from somewhere else. Idk if this all falls into the erotomaniac spectrum ,but I feel like they all love me. Sometimes when I think of myself not having this disorder anymore, I feel terrified that my self importance and worth would be no more. My life is based around “impressing” these people who in reality don’t really know me or would even actually care. When I feel down on myself, I feel like they all hate me. If someone could reply who understands this feeling or knows what it might be, that would be much appreciated. I have searched far and wide for answers to these delusions and have been trying to name it for years , but it’s like I’m the only one with it.
TiyaJanuary 27th, 2017 at 11:21 AM
I feel the same exact way! This has been happening to me since I was a kid! Ive been doing things thinking that a certain celeb is watching me. It really affects my self esteem! According to me they are watching me through cameras, and I do stupid things to impress them. Everyday I scream at myself saying that it’s not true and everyday I go through the same thing. I have no idea what to do! But at least I am not alone in this. Did you find a solution?
JudithNovember 16th, 2017 at 9:59 AM
I noticed while trying to understand my husbands problem,some medical people suggest not trying to remove the delusion,as it’s damaging to the persons esteem,to a deep level,I guess this is where drugs really do help,I’m generally anti drugs but when your life is being wrecked a proper chemical balance needs to be reinstated by trained doctors I think,to then get the thing under control,for everyone’s sake ,I should add my husband is an unmedicated schizophrenic,so there is no hope
LemonoidNovember 3rd, 2018 at 8:51 PM
You’re not alone. I read your comment and it was like reading my diary. Idk if this is a delusion as well but I wonder if the industry- not the celebrities themselves (at least not most of them)- are aware of this psychology and use it to their advantage for all the money and recognition they can milk out if it… Because I’m learning a lot of fans are experiencing this disorder.
Noname37womanJanuary 2nd, 2017 at 6:33 PM
Im aware I have this, I’m on my 3th love for a total stranger.
MeJanuary 27th, 2017 at 9:07 AM
It really sucks. I’ve been like this for a while and I don’t know what to do. I develop these huge crushes on classmates I have never even talked to before and become completely obsessed over them. The more I like them, the more I keep my distance from them. For two years in highschool I had a crush on this guy who I now feel so sick for liking. I remember when he got a girlfriend and I would just stare at them and think about how much cuter I was and that I could have him if I wanted him. When my thoughts became threatening, I immediately pulled myself back. I couldn’t believe those type of thoughts were running through my mind. Now in college and im on to another one. I’ll most likely like anf fantasize about being with him for another year ad usual.Why these wierd crushes always happen towards outgoing people is a mystery to me.
Should I really see someone about this?
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PaniaFebruary 8th, 2017 at 1:31 AM
A man whom I met many years ago believes that I am his partner and that my daughter is his. Even though we have had any type of relationship other than hello and goodbye. He is mentally unwell as he has been in mental institutions and now claims that he is coming to see me so he can pick up his daughter??? (My daughter!!!) I’m literally scared I don’t even know what to do! Any help please I don’t want us to end up dead like those ppl on Stalked programmes 😱
LiinuFebruary 8th, 2017 at 4:53 PM
HI, it sounds like it might be a good idea to calmly get the police involved, or at least as for their advice on the best way to deal with the situation. Perhaps someone could go and have a calm friendly chat with the guy (not in any way that would aggravate him towards you). This must be very stressful to you, but at least it sounds like the man has no intention of harming you or your daughter (as he believes he is your partner & her father). Please check back in here to let us know you and your daughter are ok. All the best, sending you peace and angel protection, may the situation resolve itself in the best way possible. Hugs xxx
Country girlApril 4th, 2017 at 10:32 AM
I am afraid I have a girlfriend with this disorder . A former classmate of hers recently befriended her on social media . In a short time she was convinced they were going to be a couple . When he wouldn’t succumb , she slandered him. I don’t know him at all but since I’ve read this I worry that she may have ruined a good guy. She’s a good girl and I love her, wish she would get some help with this
Suffering WifeMay 21st, 2017 at 3:22 PM
Can this go the other way round? My husband thinks he is in love with a woman who he doesn’t even know who she is or where she is for 17 years. He said he has been searching for her and his love to her has been just growing despite how hard he tries to turn it off. Is this Erotomania delusion disorder?
MarkJune 10th, 2017 at 6:50 PM
I think so. My (ex?) girlfriend has the same problem as your husband, but she also suffers from a lot of other delusions and paranoia too, and I think is either Schizophrenia or Bipolar. Probably Bipolar. It is quite sad. She was hospitalized and forced to take an anti-psychotic pill for a while. During that time, she was more rational and realized that the guy had not returned any of her feelings and was not interested in her, but she still could not explain why she had such strong feelings for him. She also did not think she needed medication, so unfortunately she stopped taking the pill and the delusions came back full-force. If your husband is anything like my girlfriend, I would say this “irrational love” is just the tip of the iceberg. He likely has a deeper psychological problem that is only beginning to manifest itself. Strictly speaking, it’s not considered erotomania unless he actually believes this woman is secretly in love with him too, but seeing how my girlfriend’s illness developed, I think you are just witnessing an early stage. The root causes are both biological and early childhood. The biological part is a chemical imbalance in the brain that causes a really strong addictive feeling to be produced that in a normal person would just be a mild crush. The person considers this feeling to be love, because love is romanticized that way in Western culture. The early childhood part explains the subconscious reason for why he chooses this woman. In my girlfriend’s case, her dad abandoned her, so I believe she is unconsciously trying to repeat that trauma by stalking and harassing guys who are guaranteed to reject her. Freud noticed this phenomenon a long time ago. You keep reliving the same trauma until your unconscious has figured out how to deal with it. If you love your husband, try to get him help before it’s too late. It sounds like he’s trying to fight this, but without help, he will eventually lose and your relationship will deteriorate to the point you don’t recognize it anymore.
Suffering WifeSeptember 20th, 2017 at 2:30 PM
Mark, how did your ex-girlfriend end up? Was she healed? Are there any success stories?
ErotoManiacAugust 2nd, 2017 at 4:14 PM
Well it certainly doesn’t help when the object of your affection goes “liking” your comments on Instagram and Twitter.
The rot in ErotomaniaAugust 11th, 2017 at 7:06 AM
To deal with erotomania find a new hobby listen rm to music take up running
say soMarch 31st, 2018 at 12:20 AM
a variation of this sickness exists in other relationships but then may be its called narcism. my brother rented a house for me without telling me. another brother knows more about the people I employ in my farm in great details that I have no way or interest in knowing. A neighbour knew about my old second hand car with incredible details and a lot of people come to me and say “your cheque cleared”. etc etc.
Fire dancerJune 14th, 2018 at 2:56 PM
I think i go through that when i go through episodes of psychosis, I saw a guy years ago and we never got it together but we did hook up a few times and spend time together. I still think of the times we had and that one day we might go out together and date and that he still likes me. sometimes we message but not always, when i am not going through psycohsis i tend to forget about him and have little contact. he is a very old friend too and i have known him for years and im sure he still considers me a good freind, but also when im well I seem to relsie that hes not into me in the same way and i cut off.
He is coming to the end of study this year and last year i asked hime if he had a girlfreind and he said no not till after he finished his degree. I have put of dating in hope for a year we would go out. but know i’m starting to think realistically that it wont happen and i need a way to move on and try to put this behind me. I’m not entirely sure what to do and have though about asking him to tell me that he would never date me or consider going out with me and talk to him about the fact i might have erotomainia to try and resolve this issue.
Thanks for reading and if anyone has any comments of advice it would help thanks
FrustratedAugust 24th, 2018 at 2:22 PM
What do you do when you think someone has erotomania but it’s plausible but not probable? My husband had a young employee years ago who claims to have had an affair with him, yet there is no evidence of it and several people say she made it up. Yet she contacts us and keeps telling me it’s true and that she even aborted his child! She can produce no communication or proof of an affair yet she continues to swear it and contact us until I threatened a restraining order. She has a history of alcoholism and substance abuse. Not sure if she would ever admit she made it up.
Reply to FrustratedAugust 25th, 2018 at 3:55 AM
What you’re describing may not be erotomania but some other problem. Erotomania is a delusion, and a delusion is when you give an irrational interpretation to something that really happened. Like for instance, if someone shook your hand and you interpreted that as unequivocal proof they are in love with you. However, if the person you think has erotomania says they had a sexual affair with your husband that led to an abortion (and it didn’t really happen), then they are either purposefully lying or having hallucinations that go way beyond a delusional disorder. I suspect they are purposefully lying, and doing so with the hope that if they can sow even a sliver of doubt in your mind, it will hurt your marriage. This is sociopathic in nature and they might also have Borderline Personality Disorder, given the substance problems.
SaraNovember 3rd, 2018 at 12:09 AM
Myfriend believes he’s engaged to and marrying a celebrity this month. He believes they are flying over seas for their secret wedding. I’m supposedly his best friend and I ask for a picture of them together, he refuses saying that she insists that they keep their relationship private because it’ll affect her status. His family did an intervention and he got livid, cursed them all out and refuses to talk to them, so I don’t confront him about it, but I do ask questions. I don’t know how to help him. He says that he’s with her now but she had to fly somewhere to do a show and is coming back in the morning. He’s 30 years older than this celebrity and lives with roommates, is poor. He’s always been socially awkward.
How can he believe he’s with her? What’s going to happen in a month when he’s not on the award show he keeps bragging about, or when he isn’t married overseas in a few weeks? He’s quit his job, drove 900 miles to be w her (just to have her leave to “do a show”), he’s sleeping in his car right now, fully believes she’s flying back for him. Who the hell is he spending time with right now if he is with someone? He told me earlier today he borrowed $650 to give whoever this person is he believes is this celebrity money for her prescriptions. I asked him, “why are you paying for her scripts?” He said she forgot to pack them. Im afraid he’s going to have a full blown meltdown when things don’t happen the way he believes they will. What’s worse is that he’s becoming so annoying to deal with. He’s beginning to act very snobbish, saying that they are about to go public bc so many people were recognizing “them” while they were out today. He told me he complained to the host of where they were staying for noise late at night, telling them “we want to be refunded because we are losing our needed rest before we go on tour”.
At first when this started happening I ignored it thinking he had developed a crush on me and was trying to somehow make me jealous. I knew he liked me because he would say inappropriate things about us being together, or would act like he was my boyfriend. Ex: “you went to bed without saying goodnight”, or “that’s no way to treat your man”… …to which I promptly would tell him that he and I are not and were never a couple, only friends.
This just has been starting to scare me. I used to give him access to my house for when I was traveling so he could house sit, but since this new delusion, I’ve changed my locks and had my boyfriend move in.
I don’t know how to help him, and it’s making me nervous.
AnonymousNovember 28th, 2018 at 12:11 AM
For years I’ve had some guy I know stare at me and act like he likes me. He makes me jealous by kissing his wife. Is this erotomania?
MarieMay 3rd, 2020 at 7:16 AM
This is a very sad and scary topic for me. I have a guy friend who I have know for some 15 years briefly. When some tragedy happened in my life, he started to write me lots of e-mails, was sending me post cards from his travels. I thought he was a friend, not a romantic relationship. He as well sent me his stories and photos about “the females” he was interested into. I never reacted. Often, he wrote that this and this female does not want to talk to him anymore, that she had told him he has a boyfriend. Somewhere on the go, he was diagnosed with schizophrenia. I don´t know what was the cause or how it happened, I suppose that he is not telling the true story…esp. as I have been only in e-mail contact with him past years. I strongly suspect it was about him stalking females. He seems to develop the phantasy about each of these females who are just being polite and nice to him (as some people are simply kind). I am getting worried that he has developed this phantasy as well about me. Lately, he has been sending me e-mails about particular one lady (his last flame) – he sent me as well e-mails that he supposedly sent to other people where he as well talks about this lady being his girlfriend. I had this thought that he is making me jealous, that he is using the triangulation. I had written him in the past that I am not interested in his private stuff. He stopped bothering me with this, but he started again past couple of weeks. Last week he has been hospitalized for psychosis (I suppose that his family has let him hospitalize). He does not reveal the truth, he says that he has trouble with his parents (he is living with them) and that he is searching for his own flat. Until he finds it, he will be living in the hospital. He included a copy of a letter he was sending to some female friend for the past who does not apparently responds his letters anymore. He asked her in this letter whether she was married, he repeated he had a girlfriend now, but he does not know whether he is ever going to marry her, he wrote about being at the dentists…all thoughts mixed together in a clearly thought disorder, difficult to follow the content. I got scared of this e-mail and I advised him to search after a doctor. I did not know that he had been already hospitalized at this point.
I had understood that he truly does have schizophrenia and what it sort of means. I suppose that one of his big delusional thoughts is erotomania. I feel very scared right now what to do. It is highly possible that I am as well his erotomanic object. He does not mind at all that he has not seen me for couple of years and that I keep repeat to him that it is great that he has another girlfriend. Maybe I have to address his erotomania directly. I would like to cut off the contact, however it feels scary that he will revenge at me. I have to be careful. He has my address, he has been once at my house. I feel better when I know that he is locked up in the hospital. Never could I have thought that this kind, quiet friend who sometimes writes me an e-mail in the time of my physical sickness, is more over someone who exerts control over me. He does not truly care for me as for a friend. He seems very self-centered, not attuned. It feels that he is searching for his “female” supply only (even though it is only a brief e-mail contact, he can make up other things ouf ot that). I hope that I will be safe and move safely out of this “friendship”.
MarieMay 3rd, 2020 at 7:28 AM
Sara, I hope you are well and safe.
Thank you very much for your sharing. It has helped me to reflect upon my situation.
Might you please share how this has developed with this guy “friend” ? I am in a similar position. I as well thought that the guy friend is trying to make me jealous talking so much about the other female, then I was thinking that hopefully he truly has found someone (the females he talks about seem to be real, he sent me photos…however, I can never prove it, I live far away from him). The thing is, can this be that a guy is talking about his private, intimate friendships with another female ? Or is it truly a sort of triangulation and he does the same to some other females, who as well does not seem to want to be with him in a relationship ?
RayMay 28th, 2020 at 11:54 AM
There’s this girl I met in high school ten plus years ago that stalks me hacks my phone harasses me makes lies about me til this day. She’s delusional and disrespectful and dirty. How do I get rid of her for good? She won’t leave me alone.
AnonymousJune 11th, 2020 at 5:37 AM
I’ve been delusional too, still in love with a guy who dumped me 4yrs ago. He’s in another relationship, but sometimes, I still fantasize about us coming back together, about him still being in love with me, about all the dreams and hopes we had coming true. And it hurts to hope, but I can’t seem to stop. I just want to encourage as many as are going through something like this. You’re not alone. God loves you and has better plans for you, even if you don’t see it, even if you don’t understand it. He knows better and He’s always near, He’s got us, He’ll take care of us. He’ll take better care of our hearts than anyone ever did. Have faith in Him, you’ll see. Know that you’re chosen, you’re a special gift, you’re preferred. You’re not rejected, you’re loved!
Everything is gonna turn out just fine, and we are gonna be alright!
VictoriaJune 22nd, 2020 at 8:05 PM
I have had an erotomanic stalker for almost 3 years now, ever since having a nervous breakdown Nov 1 2017 that he helped give me.
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