Helping People Find Therapists & Advocating for Ethical and Healthy Therapy & Marriage Counseling Practices

My Approach to Helping

Are you finding yourself repeating the same pain in your relationships over and over. Are you fed up with therapists who just say uh huh, and mmm. With over two and a half decades of experience offering and supervising therapy, I am a skilled active therapist, who works efficiently and effectively to help you get the most out of your life. I work with individuals and couples having distress in their relationships, contemplating /having/and recuperating from affairs,individuals dealing with tough life transitions, and people finding themselves overwhelmed by their emotions.

 

More Info About My Practice

I work on a fee for service basis, and do not take insurance. Upon request, I provide clients with a medical bill that allows them to file for out of network benefits. Based on my years in the field and my level of training and experience, my current fee is $155 for a forty five minute session.

 

Specific Issue(s) I'm Skilled at Helping With

I am particularly adept at working with couples in distress having worked with a wide variety of couples including those being highly stressed through emotional turmoil, and those coping with physical illness. I have worked with many couples and individuals dealing with affairs, and now, email/web distractions.The model I use, emotionally focused therapy, is one which is totally supportive of both members of the relationship and allows partners to learn to first de-escalate their conflict, and then how to really get closer.

 

How Psychotherapy Can Help

Psychotherapy helps individuals through deepening a person's humanity--their self understanding, and self-compassion. With understanding and compassion, individuals are able to be honest with themselves and others about needs, and preferences.

 

My View on the Purpose of Psychotherapy

The purpose of psychotherapy spans from minimizing emotional anxiety and depression, through to minimizing conflict with others, on to optimizing self knowledge and expression, from there into optimizing one's career and relationship, and ultimately facilitating finding meaning and spiritual fulfillment in life.

 

What I Love about Being a Psychotherapist

I am passionate about helping people come alive, and find love,richness and fulfillment in their lives.

 

My Role as a Therapist

To help clients understand themselves, heal from prior hurts, and provide the safety and security to explore new options. As a couple's therapist it is to support each member of the couple to understand the hurts under their patterns of reaction and to really learn how to reach out and touch each other in emotionally satisfying ways. The research shows that couples who can learn to make meaningful emotional contact really have improved relationships. Couples who merely learn how to negotiate responsibilities,may end up more effective roommates, but do not report emotional satisfaction in their relationship. Negotiation may be necessary but it is not sufficient for feeling really safe, secure, and meaningfully connected to the one we love. This kind of connection comes form some careful experience of learning how to actually make intimate emotional contact with one we love..

 

My Therapy Focus

Building a relationship with a client so that they can develop an easy compassionate way of understanding themselves and as a natural consequence of this improve their relationships with others.

Services I Provide

• Individual Therapy & Counseling
• Marriage, Couples, or Relationship Counseling
• Family Therapy
• Consultation
• Online Counseling / Phone Therapy

Ages I Work With

• Adults

Languages I Speak

• English

Groups I Work With

I work with professionals--doctors, lawyers, professors, oil and gas scientists, engineers, academics, school teachers, and individuals having trouble in relationships.
I often effectively assist those contemplating, engaged in, and recovering from affairs to understand their motivation and more productively consider their options. Having spent a fair bit of time abroad, I am adept at helping couples with cross cultural issues. I also am particularly sensitive and have worked with individuals struggling with religious, spiritual, and contemplative concerns.

Therapy Approaches I Use

• Anger Management
• Contemplative Psychotherapy
• Depth Therapy
• Emotion Focused Couples Therapy
• Emotion Focused Therapy
• Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy
• Family Systems Therapy
• Humanistic Psychology
• Mindfulness Based Approaches
• Non-Violent Communication
• Object Relations
• Psychodynamic
• Self Psychology
• Solution Focused Therapy
• Systems Theory /Therapy

Concerns & Issues I Help With

• Identity Issues
• Attachment
• Addictions & Compulsions
• Life Changes
• Social Skills & Problems
• Emotion Management
• Anxiety, Fear, & Stress
• Occupational & Academic Issues
• Relationships & Marriage
• Depression & Mood
• Abuse: Emotional, Physical, or Sexual
• Family Problems
• Self-Esteem & Confidence
• Spirituality
• Health & Body