The Basics of Bullying and How to Stop ItJune 14, 2010 • By Roni Weisberg-Ross, LMFT, Abuse / Survivors of Abuse Topic Expert Contributor
“All cruelty springs from weakness.” —Seneca, 4BC-AD65
There are those who say that bullying is behind all forms of violence, conflict, persecution, abuse, harassment, discrimination, and prejudice.
The death of Phoebe Prince in 2010, a 15-year-old Massachusetts girl who hanged herself after being harassed by a group of students from her school, puts a spotlight on bullying among teenagers. And in fact, there have been many notable cases of teen bullying, on and off the Internet (i.e., cyber-taunting on Facebook) that come to mind when we think of bullies.
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However, it isn’t just children and teenagers who bully. Although it may not be as obvious, or as easily identifiable, adult bullying may be more widespread. “Independent research suggests that bullying is happening to around 1 in 4 people” (from “Life After Adult Bullying”). Bullying impacts many of us, regardless of our age.
What Is Bullying?
Bullying is defined as “an act of repeated aggressive behavior in order to intentionally hurt another person, physically or mentally” (Wikipedia). It is characterized as behaving in a manner to gain power over another person. And it is a form of abuse. I would suggest that if you rephrase the descriptive action from “repeated aggressive behavior” to “taking frustrations out” on those who are weaker or different, bullying becomes a much more commonplace and identifiable act. In fact, it is pervasive.
There are different types of bullies and different environments in which they proliferate. There are verbal bullies, physical bullies, serial bullies, gang bullies, cyber bullies, subordinate bullies, unwitting bullies, work bullies, sadistic bullies, and psychotic and sociopathic bullies. There are bullies at work, at home, in schools, in governments, in religious organizations, on the Internet, and in social cliques.
What Kind of People Bully?
Usually people with low self-esteem and a certain amount of unconscious resentment (envy, jealously) that pushes the bully to project their own feelings of inadequacy onto you while denying that anything is wrong with them. Not all bullies are serial bullies. Sometimes the average person loses it under pressure and takes out their feelings in a bullying manner. But regardless of how or why it is happening to you, it is not acceptable.
What all bullies have in common is the use of power to satisfy one’s own psychological shortcomings. Each time a bully moves against someone weaker, he/she feels better about themselves for an instant. But because that feeling doesn’t last, they do it again and again. Sometimes the bully appears to lack insight into their own behavior (unwitting bully), but more often the bully does know yet elects to ignore the moral and ethical considerations by which the majority of people are bound. The rules don’t apply to them. Or they have projected so much self-hatred on the other that they truly believe that those they are bullying deserve exactly what they are getting.
Why Are There So Many Bullies in Society?
One of the reasons bullying is so prevalent is because most bullies commit non-arrestable offenses. And so bullying becomes unconsciously acceptable. It’s an outlet–a way to express–frustration and/or rage.
There are adult bullies we can easily identify. Hitler was a bully; racists are bullies. Parents and older siblings have been known to bully. Certainly, gang members bully. But what about those who threaten, shame, or intimidate you into doing things you don’t really want to do? It happens to most of us, and when it does, we are being bullied. Even when it comes from a person or institution that you love, respect, admire–your government, your church, your significant other, a family member, a professional colleague. Sometimes there is a fine line between harmless coercion and harmful bullying. But you can feel the difference. You know when you are truly ambivalent and open to being talked into something versus when you are being pressed against your better instincts, wishes, or values. And if you are being bullied by more than one person (i.e. an organization or group), it is even more difficult to stand up for yourself.
More insidious and pernicious is the type of bullying that has less to do about forcing you to do something and more to do with “putting you in your place”–minimizing or even destroying you in order to make someone else feel better about themselves. People do this consciously or unconsciously because of a hole inside of themselves that they try and fill by being better than someone else. It gives them a sense of power and authority in the world that they may not otherwise experience. It is a way to externalize their own feelings of insecurity, inferiority, and/or rage by putting those feelings on someone else and then attacking them.
Some bullying is so subtle that you really believe the bully. They make you feel unsure of yourself; bad about yourself. They can even do it in the guise of friendship or love. It becomes more of a mind game than an outright violation. But it is bullying just the same. We will not be able to rid the world of bullies, but we can learn how to stand up to them.
How Do You Stand Up for Yourself to Stop Bullying?
First and foremost, recognize what is happening and remember that it is the bully who has the problem, not you. Unless they are physically threatening you, bullies are “paper tigers.” If you stand up to them calmly and confront their behavior rationally while asserting your rights, they will back down. If you call them out on their actions, they usually have no place to go–especially if others are witness to these actions. You don’t have to attack a bully; you simply have to calmly and self-assuredly stand up for yourself. You don’t want to give them reason to escalate by engaging in a heated or emotional manner. You may be thinking that this sounds easier than it would actually be. So start slowly. If you can’t immediately stand up to a bully, at least don’t play into their behavior by trying to appease them.
Let the bully know by your reaction that you are not cowed and quietly walk away. Think about what you want to say and either talk to them later or wait until the next time they behave that way and then call them out on it. Bullies don’t have any real power once they realize that you won’t engage in their game. Once you have exposed them; they will fade away.
© Copyright 2010 by Roni Weisberg-Ross, LMFT, therapist in Los Angeles, CA. All Rights Reserved.
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JUDEJune 14th, 2010 at 11:25 AM
My boss is such a bully…has a special liking to bullying me and a few others…handles us some lenghty work at the last moment and gives us unreasonable deadlines and keeps shouting at us and keep telling us just how inefficient we are and how we can never match up to his younger past…I’d like to just slap him and tell him that he is nothing more than a bully and I am better than him,atleast in the aspect of treating others with some respect!
JuliaJune 14th, 2010 at 4:09 PM
How do adults allow themselves to be treated like this? How poorly do you have to think of yourself as an adult to still allow this to happen to you?
I can understand it happening to you as a kid, you have no real way to defend yourself. But as an adult you should have the ability to stand up for yourself and tell someone that he or she is doing wrong!
LisaJune 14th, 2010 at 4:52 PM
Roni, I’ve been told before that the worst thing you can do to a bully (in their eyes) is laugh at them because it takes away their power. Would you advocate that as a strategy? I’m thinking more of online bullies, not bosses or a person you have to deal with face-to-face. I would think brushing off what they say with a jokey comment that shows it doesn’t bother you would be a good tactic.
TeachJune 14th, 2010 at 7:15 PM
I just read a new study that came out in Canada about workplace bullying. The findings were that workplace bullying can be worse than even racial or gender harrasment. It’s a serious problem there and up until now, it’s not been illegal. A new bill that’s coming in this month addresses that.
JERRYJune 15th, 2010 at 4:24 AM
I have never been bullied and have never bullied anyone either. But I just don’t understand this online bullying…I mean, size or position does not matter online, does it…? Also, you have the option of ‘turning off’ the bully, right…?
SteveJune 15th, 2010 at 4:45 AM
adult bullies are laughable- they are doing it all to prop up their own fragile egos- let them know that you know that about them and I guarantee the bullying will stop faster than it began.
Earnshaw EJune 15th, 2010 at 12:13 PM
@Jerry:you’re right.its not like they can follow you and taunt you in the real world…but they surely do,in the cyber world…its not as easy as just switching off or logging off…suppose you’re on a social networking site and this particular person is bullying you by posting fake info about you and writing to you.you can block that user but he will only create another user-name and get back to bullying you.and you would’nt want to delete your own account,would you…?!
MarthaJune 15th, 2010 at 7:58 PM
Phoebe Prince wasn’t a Massachusetts girl. She was from Ireland and had only moved to the US months before. Her heritage was part of what made that poor beautiful girl a target too. Jealousy was at the root of this bullying, over a boy she was dating. Those kids killed her with their words and taunts as surely as if they had shot her.
CameronJune 16th, 2010 at 9:01 PM
Wouldn’t ignoring them to be a better strategy than joking about what they said, Lisa? Because when you joke about it, you’re drawing attention to whatever they posted. If you ignore it, it doesn’t get the attention they crave that it will. All the online bullies I’ve ever came across hate nothing more than their rants and bitchy comments being ignored as if they aren’t even there.
PearlJune 16th, 2010 at 11:14 PM
I had a boss once that bullied every youngster in the place. He eventually was removed from the job because a complaint was made against him. Employees need to know they do not have to accept workplace bullying! You can report it to HR. Bullying bosses feed on your fear and assume you’ll never do that. Make it official if you can.
Once you do, it’s all on record and they can’t bully anymore because of that. They know that HR will be watching because they don’t want a lawsuit on their hands.
rareAugust 3rd, 2010 at 9:12 PM
only those who experienced being bullied can truly relate to those who are being bullied but help ,more often than not must come from those who have not experienced bullying. its easy to say how one can allow oneself to be bullied but its a fact its happening and the bullied are helpless. they dont ALLOW others to bully them far from it, if they can leave that situation, im sure they would but they cant. i dont know if im making any sense at all, maybe those who are being bullied can understand what i mean.
kcNovember 20th, 2010 at 6:24 AM
Most often there is nothing you can do to a bully boss. Yes their superiors know it. You become a child dependent on abusive dysfunctional parents. If your a government employee. Only God can help you.
bulliedJanuary 22nd, 2011 at 9:10 AM
KC, You’re right about that. As a government employee, my boss is one insecure guy. He’s about 6 years older than me and will harass or make comments on a weekly basis in passing, sending a zinger my way or commenting about my name. I always feel like he wants me to quit but says that I’m doing a good job. He’s got some health problems and is in pain but makes some of the most outrageous comments I’ve ever heard or known a manager to make. And upon review, he’s done it in staff meetings and to our group as a whole. It’s amazing that he hasn’t been taken to HR and warned about this. He also confided to us that he taught high school history, a student drew a knife on him and he broke the kid’s arm. He was fired, but I’m sure he verbally provoked the kid. The kid’s actions weren’t justified but adults are capable of fostering and antagonizing just as easily as children and teenagers. The only thing that assuages my angst is that I consider the source and realize the immaturity and delayed development of this individual. I often wonder if he ponders the thought about the mind/body connection and how it may be worsening his debilitating illness. Yes, I pray about this and other situations at work regularly.
roneyrodeFebruary 20th, 2011 at 1:47 PM
they always mention what a bully hitler was and how evil he was. yet they forget to mention what a bully stalin was who had killed far more people than hitler did more brutally and stalin was a jew. you forget to mention what a bully the united states and israel is to the innocent palestinians murdering and massacrering and raping men and women. oh yeah it is also a typical techinique of the bully to call the victim a bully. thanks to malcolm x, louis farrakhan and kamau kabon and leonard howell thousands of innocent white people are being bullied everyday. you know the words: cracker, honkey, white boy etc. isn’t tha racial bullying?
CourtneyApril 22nd, 2011 at 10:15 AM
@Julia that’s a pretty insensitive comment. People who are bullied don’t want to be and usually are preyed on because they may be shy or timid or don’t like to stir the pot.
Also – what if your HR manager is the one DOING the bullying?
StephMarch 24th, 2012 at 2:30 PM
one of my Supervisers is a Bully to me and we work with kids and we have it posted every were this is a Bully free zone and I went to my manager and I need help on this. I tried doing everything in my power to say something and she goes to the boss and says Steph is Lieing I never did anything that is she saying to me.
MarthaOctober 19th, 2012 at 2:58 AM
I am 46 years old and am currently being bullied by my sociopathic x-husband’s sociopathic first wife. We were divorced over three years ago and this week, his first wife decided to call my current boyfriend’s x-wife (who she doesn’t know) and tell her a bunch of lies about me. Although all the information was false, this phone call has caused so many problems on so many levels and has hurt so many people I love that I am completely overwhelmed by my feelings of powerlessness. X wife #1 has been trying to ruin my life since day one and I thought when I divorced the sociopath that I had seen the last of her as well but she was just waiting for an opportunity. And, frankly, I don’t care what her childhood was like. Yes, adult bullying is real and it can happen because there are people in this world who have more hate than love in thier hearts.
WendyNovember 22nd, 2012 at 4:26 PM
I am a 36 year old woman who has been “mobbed at work”, my manager was a friend who has at every turn manipulated and abused her position as my manager. After years of this and plenty of attempts to discuss the issue and try and resolve it, i then complained to HR. BIG MISTAKE -The bullying escalated until everyone was constantly making personal comments and intimidating threats. I was unable to continue working
any longer and i am now on the sick with depression and stress. My name is “MUD” and i have no redeeming qualities. I had started to feel better, however i have just had a massive shock!! People are abusing me online, the comments are EXACTLY the same as they were in work and although they haven’t mentioned my name it is very obvious who this is aimed at. I can’t stop crying, i am absolutely devastated. Can anybody help me? Has anybody got any advice which would enable me to be able to cope.
ErinDecember 7th, 2012 at 6:19 AM
Would the owner of this post email me if you can? I would like permission to add it to a facebook page I am creating, “Resisting Adult Bullies”.
I am currently dealing with a pair of adult bullies as well. SMART adult bullies. They never attack when there are witness’ around. I’ve resorted to purchasing a voice recorder in the hopes that at the very least, it will deter them from bothering me. It will either do its’ job or make matters worse…
TanyaDecember 10th, 2012 at 11:43 AM
Wendy, So sorry to hear that you are in pain over being bullied. Before you record someone, BEWARE. That may not be legal in your country/state/city. If your bullies are smart, combined with punishing and vindictive, you could find yourself looking down the barrel of a LAWSUIT. My bully is an extended family member who claims to be religious but is a nasty, nasty woman with control issues. She’s kind of sick right now because she abused me in front of a number of people and she’s been (in my opinion) spinning and spinning the story ever since to make her look good. Her mistake (and I think she rarely makes one when bullying) is leaving WITNESSES. I was completely faultless in what I did to “earn” her abuse and…get this….everyone agrees I did nothing. So, this is a rare time she has been CAUGHT and she is reeling from that. I stood up for myself in the moment (without yelling, naecalling, or anything else) and I am so proud that I chose to assertively (not agreessively – I’ve heard that the difference between assertive and agreessive is that assertive protects oneself whi9le aggressive over-steps protecting oneself and begins to trample on another’s boundaries). Now all she is left with is trying to convince others how wrong I was and the conflict is threading its way through the witnesses, with her even demanding apologies from the witnesses who have attempted to respond to her propaganda. The only sentiment I have for her is: CAUGHT. So, to all of you who have been wrongfully bullied, take my scoring justice as a karmic score on your behalf. Love and light to you all!
TanyaDecember 10th, 2012 at 12:05 PM
Oops, my recording comment was actually meant for ERIN,
JenJanuary 5th, 2013 at 3:42 PM
I have just had a run in with one of my very best friends. He’s turned it into something quite nasty and upsetting so in a bid to find out how to address it I hit the internet.
It was such a relief to read this post. I could identify his behaviour exactly, it’s almost a box-ticking exercise. I know I’m not perfect either, who is, but it was good to see that his disproportionate anger and attack was not really deserved. Having always played the peacemaker/conciliator, I feel encouraged to stand up for myself for the first time in 10 years of friendship.
KelFebruary 6th, 2013 at 9:11 AM
I recently watched Dr. Phil after a lengthy period of not viewing his shows. I stopped watching because, to me, he seemed to bully his guests quite a bit by the way he treated them. I got the same feeling this time. After reading this article I am more convince than ever that my instincts are correct and Dr. Phil is a good example of an adult bully. We see more examples all the time just listening to judges put contestants down on shows like Idol etc.
ClaireFebruary 16th, 2013 at 8:11 AM
How does one find help against bullying and sexual harassment not related to an ex-husband or job?
I need help and I need it fast! I do not know what to do! I feel helpless and right now hopeless!
Anyone with any information, please please help!
DaveJuly 1st, 2013 at 8:37 PM
I am presently being bullied by an “organization” related to a rare but important fact about myself. Anytime I find someone like me in this regard, this corruptly run group eventually also finds this person and then turns them against me.
I’m looking to find or form a support group for people a victim of similar misconduct.
judi van emmerikOctober 21st, 2013 at 9:33 AM
Hello, I was intimidated into having a hysterectomy that I did not need; because of a relatively minor incontinence problem I had. And I have found that I cannot complain about that to friends or family, they are not in the least even sympathetic about it. I am 58 years old and experience has taught me that even what I wrote above would be denied by those few in my personal circle. I do have some legal help out of state right now, and I do not talk about it to anyone around me. Sorry to have used the term “I” so much in this post.
well did it helpOctober 21st, 2014 at 11:39 AM
There more ways of torture than hitting or such, music,
Roaring of a game, Motercycle s, small engines , how to Handel it and where to go for help.
JimFebruary 6th, 2015 at 9:43 AM
I have never met a bully who was not a coward. When they are confronted by anyone equal in size and strength or bigger and stronger they show their true colors-SPINELESS. I have witnessed this more times than I can remember. I have no sympathy for bullies and when they choose the wrong “victim.”
EddieFebruary 6th, 2015 at 9:59 AM
This is where the article fails the real-world litmus test: “If you stand up to them calmly and confront their behavior rationally while asserting your rights, they will back down. If you call them out on their actions, they usually have no place to go–especially if others are witness to these actions.” In the real world, this is where bullies either double-down with their insults, get physical, or their friends jump in and gang-up on you.
There are several different strategies and tactics for dealing with bullies, however the reality is that few things will make a bully stop. YOU are one of them. Facing them head-on (online it’s metaphorically)and letting them know their behavior will not make you blink no matter how much they escalate usually deflates them. Usually when they realize they will not “win”, or will not be able to “defeat” you, they seek out another target.
JennFebruary 7th, 2015 at 9:21 AM
A bully is irrational. They cannot and will not listen to reason.
The best way is to get out before it affects your health or mind. Why? Because the bully (or mob) is toxic and they will spread their toxicity all around them. Bystanders/witnesses will become quiet because they don’t want to be the next target. People will shift their focus from their work to avoiding pulled into the conflict or becoming the next target. Productivity goes down. Morale goes down. Customer service/satisfaction goes down. Revenues goes down.
The only alternative is to get out of that environment before it affects your health and confidence. While you plan your escape, you need to stay on your toes. Document every encounter with the bully or mob – that is write all that was said. Paraphrase what was said, how it was said, who said it, where it was said, time and date – as well as any witnesses as possible. It will be a you said versus they said and the bully (and or mob) will lie. They have a goal and that goal is the elimination of you.
To stay sane, read up on bullying and mobbing. Find articles online. Google Kenneth westhues, Anton hout, Tim fields, the Namies (Gary & ruth – founders of the workplace bullying institute)…these people have done a lot of work in the workplace bullying and mobbing field.
Use your health benefits while you have it – talk to a therapist who has dealt with workplace bullying/mobbing.
Go for walks. Get exercise. Meet friends. Take care of yourself and your mind. Do n
JennFebruary 7th, 2015 at 9:34 AM
Sorry, I accidentally clicked submit!
One last point. Donor stay quiet. Talk to friends or a therapist. A bully wants you to stay quiet so that you become isolated. The bully wants to make you feel small.
FaiezaFebruary 17th, 2015 at 5:40 PM
I’m a mother of two adult kids who bullies me and my husband specially my 25 year old daughter never knew until I came across a article on youtube describing my daughter and I was shocked angry confused all the years I blamed myself and confused I do whatever for her but nothing is good enough very sad to see nothing I do pleases her.I migrated from one place to the other butto be with her when we find out she’s pregnant but nothing is good where I’m concern.She humiliates me speak behind my back so sad how can a child do this.my son recently copies her and they got no concern for my 10 year old who’s emotionally a wreck because of all this.we now moving back as many articles tell you to get far away from such people as she really emotionally drained me
PatMarch 4th, 2015 at 12:38 PM
I am being bullied by my landlord. If I defend myself she throws a temper tantrum and starts messing with my lease and deposits and raises the rent. I can’t move because of money issues and pets. She feeds her sick ego with her ability to scream at me while I have to listen to her verbal abuse and take it, or end up homeless. Her comment to me is, “you don’t know who you’re messing with.” I already had a meeting with the state housing reps. They told me to move and wondered why I’m staying there, but as I said, not many places accept dogs, cats and a horse at an affordable price. If she’s outside, I go in. I stay away from her, but she always is lurking on my rental property with her animals and friends and then finds some fathom thing to literally scream and threaten me and my husband for. She found a perfect unbeknownst victim as I am quiet and soft-spoken.
DarleneMarch 5th, 2015 at 10:34 AM
I am a victim of gang stalking as the result of a viscious neighbor who lied and said I didn’t smething to her and now my good name is blacklisted. I am on some type of registry as a potentially voleent and ow I am montiroed 24/7. I have no privacy.As soon as I leav emy home and email or text message is sent out to a network of people and I am followed everywhere I go–in my vehicle and on foot. I have never done anything to this woman but she has been trying to run me out of the neighborhood for years. Now she has taken her harassment to a different level. Anyone aware of a registry like this, what it mght be called and how can I clear my good name. She apparently issued a false complaint against me and I was not contacted to get my side of the story. My life is a living nightmare if you can imagine. Prayer is the one thing that helps live through this but I would like my life and peace of mind back. Thank you or any thoughts you might have on this matter. There is alot of information on the Web about gang stalking. It is real.
MeApril 9th, 2015 at 1:48 PM
Male family member has been bullying us for years. Now realizing he is not must a “jerk” but a bully who intimidates, criticizes, he is always right etc. Recently has hwon more signs of physic al intimidation – moving close to person, “Cornering” at times, very ugly mean grimace on face. Family is now talkingtogether about this. Some ignore, some having difficulty not taking personally wanting to “help” him. Should we be concerned about physical violence that now seems to be mounting? I feel this is possible. What to do to protect selves?
NMay 14th, 2015 at 8:34 AM
My Sister In Law is a Bully. My Mother & Father lets her Bully me in front of them. I tell my Sisters they won’t Lison too a word I say they tell me too be nice too Lori witch I have been doing so! Lori all those years before my Brother was Marryed too Lori & after he had pass on now she talks very bad about him. I even over Hurd bad things comeing out of Lori & her Aunt Rafina s mouth very bad about my Brother who is gone now my Family takes her side Lori smiles when I get in too troble by my Family. I can’t take it no more.
NMay 14th, 2015 at 8:38 AM
One time I told her off my Mother told me too Applagize too her she fakes cry too my Mother my Family takes her side she’s been very evil for her bad ways.
EvetteMay 30th, 2015 at 1:11 AM
My brother is a bully. He loves to bully my when my mum and dad are not looking. One Saturday, we were looking for some newspapers to read as it was in the timetable of ours. He told me to find some Chinese newspapers but I was to busy finding mine that I didn’t hear him. He then kicked me in the stomach. It was too pain that I had to kick him back. He continued to pull my hair,kick me, punch me. Please help me get rid of him. Please….
May 30th, 2015 at
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dandelionJune 23rd, 2015 at 8:08 AM
I’ve been living with my family friends for 3 years now, 2 years back from now the daughter in law for this family has been hating on me, then liked me, then hated me, and now its been a year since, the thing is she thinks I’m dating “her husband”, which I’m not. And now she keeps swearing at me and she keeps threatening me in everyway she possibly can. I’m tired of this I really am, I tried talking to her husband but he told me to do what ever I can to act on that that’s how she is and he’s also tired of her… The thing is I need to do something that’s gonna hurt her for the rest of her life, something that’s gonna put her in her place… Please help me
GoodTherapy AdminJune 23rd, 2015 at 8:25 AM
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SuzanneAugust 11th, 2015 at 6:35 PM
I have a new sister in law that is apparently intimidated by me. She went bridezilla on me at their wedding for no reason and then proceeded to yell at my mother in law, calling her a liar. There are 2 sons and I would never do anything to hurt their brotherly relationship. This girl is using her new husband to fight all her battles. I publicly apologized for my so-called wrong doing accusation at the wedding (I still don’t know what I did…) via email and sent it to my brother in law (because that was the email address I had.) I was then in trouble for not sending it to her. I can’t win. And yet she has admitted no wrong doing or inappropriateness. She is an only child and spends most of her time with her parents. My brother in law came to see me and my husband by himself, when we were in town. She will only see my in laws if they’re going out to dinner and, of course, if I’m not there. This target on my back needs to come off. I hate what it’s doing to my husbands family but I feel like I’ve done everything I possibly can yet she hasn’t accepted any responsibility for her actions. I’m tired of her bullying….
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