My Approach to Helping
I believe in starting where the client is, with deep empathy and validation, but also always holding for my client a vision for his/her higher potential and possibility for his/her life. The work we do together strives to enable them to see their situation in a new way where they can feel empowered and hopeful. Many individuals feel liberated when the repetitive self-defeating patterns, or blocking mindset can be altered. In some cases grieving is necessary. Changes in self, mood and behavior can occur, and new doors open for a different kind of living. Much is possible on the other side of fear. So the aim is to face the blocks, and to gain energy from the non-resistance to what is currently going on, and develop a new perspective. Being seen and heard by a warm and experienced therapist can be extremely validating, and it is a form of care and work with a power to heal that knows no bounds. The kinds of issues that I help Individuals with are work and life problems, relationship issues of all kinds, anxiety, depression, grief, Adult ADHD, divorce, separation, low self esteem, emotional or other kinds of abuse, and young adulthood issues, self-sabotaging personality patterns.
With couples, using Imago Relationship Therapy, EFT (Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy), the Gottman approach and Tatkin's Psychobiological Couples approach (PACT), I strive to help partners clear out the blocks in their relational space, move from reactivity to conscious intentionality, and find each other again, perhaps in a new way for the first time. We focus on the pattern of interaction that is causing disconnection for each partner, and help them shift to a different way. We seek to renew safety and create secure attachment bonds, where passion can be reengaged. I present Imago Weekend Workshops for Couples, which are called "Getting the Love You Want". These are being done all over the world and I am the only Certified Presenter in my region. These Workshops are transformative for couples.