My Approach to Helping
Life is complicated! I became a therapist due to this fact, my strong belief in the therapeutic process and its transformative power, and my desire to "Pay it forward". I particularly enjoy working with people who are invested in doing the "work" that it takes to actualize the lasting, positive changes that they want to make in their lives. I am an extremely solid therapist due, in large part, to my own unique life experience and my educational background. I utilize a multifaceted approach that is specifically tailored to each individual's needs, as I do not believe in a "one size fits all" therapeutic approach.
More Info About My Practice
I received several post-graduate degrees from the University of Toledo, where I also taught and aimed to teach my students to think critically in order to better understand the world and themselves from 1997 to 2017. During the last 8 years of my employment at UT, I also worked as a therapist in private practice.
In addition, I was trained in a variety of therapeutic modalities following graduate school, as I believe that it is extremely important for therapists to be able to utilize a wide range of therapeutic approaches and--after assessment of an individual--implement what he/she believes will be of the most beneficial to each, individual client.
I believe that my success as a therapist is not due solely to my educational background but to my own life experience in conjunction with my having done the "work" that I needed to do in order to cope with issues in a more productive way, heal, grow, and change my life in ways that I hadn't imagined possible prior to committing to the therapeutic process 27 years ago.
Important Factors for Choosing a Therapist
The therapist-client relationship is a unique one. Not every therapist is alike! Thus, finding the right therapist for you is extremely important. I am not ashamed to admit that I sought therapy years ago in order to improve many aspects of my life. However, when I first sought help 38 years ago (at the age of 15), I saw five separate therapists each for one to three sessions only and finally gave up. I did not feel comfortable with or understood by any of the therapists I saw at that time. In addition, I did not understand how the therapeutic process works.
It wasn't until 6 years passed that I even considered and then attempted to seek help again. I did so only after a friend suggested that I see a therapist whom she believed I would "click" with. I still remember making my initial appointment with the therapist to whom I was referred to while simultaneously thinking that this was my "last ditch" effort in terms of seeking outside help. It wasn't until I had the opportunity to work with someone who I really "clicked" with that I began to understand just how powerful the process can be.
Taking a chance on yet another therapist was something that I was hesitant to do, but making that first appointment with her is now at the top of my list in terms of the best decisions I have made in my life thus far. With her help, I was able to turn my life around in ways I hadn't know were possible, which is truly the reason that I eventually became a therapist myself.
Why Going to Therapy Does Not Mean You are Weak or Flawed
Unfortunately, many people still believe that seeking outside help is solely for individuals who have been deemed "crazy" by society or those who are "weak". I believe that this misguided belief that often responsible for causing individuals (who could benefit significantly from seeking help) to miss out on an opportunity to turn their lives around in order to live more authentic, healthy lives.
In my experience as a therapist, the majority of the individuals who attend therapy do so simply because they struggle with issues such as relationship issues, depression, anxiety, adjustment issues, etc.. Most are bright people who really desire to improve their lives and learn to conquer the issues that they are struggling with.
In addition, therapy is definitely not for the weak, as investing in the process and committing to doing the therapeutic "work" that will ultimately enable people to cope, grow, heal, identify goals, attain those goals, and more takes "work". Thus, my belief is that therapy is for the courageous rather than for the weak.
Having been on both sides of the "therapeutic table" is definitely one of the factors that I believe has made me successful in the field. There is no shame in seeking help; doing so is a courageous act and I applaud anyone who is willing to work to improve themselves and, thus, their lives.