My Approach to Helping
Are you lonely or depressed? Do you try to have satisfying relationships but somehow just can't make them work for you?
Perhaps you soothe your pain with alcohol or drugs, food or other distracting addictions that are more hurtful then helpful.
Maybe you have grown up with insecure attachments but don't really understand the impact of it on you. You simply feel insecure, anxious or detached.
This is all connected in most cases. Working out your attachment style, resolving loss or feelings of abandonment and learning new ways to feel secure in yourself and in relationships is what good psychotherapy is all about.
No one size fits all , so we would work together to design what is best for you.
If there is a serious problem with addiction, rather in yourself or a loved one, we will work that out as well. I am Certified as a Specialist in treating Substance Abuse.
Therapy works if you want it to. And I love helping people overcome the things that inhibit them from having a satisfying life. Seeing you become free and happy is my reward.
More Info About My Practice
Teletherapy via Video during the Pandemic
Out of Network Provider
We will help you with statements for your insurance company or will submit claims for you so that you get reimbursed.
Take Credit Cards as well
Specific Issue(s) I'm Skilled at Helping With
Feelings of loneliness and depression coming from abandonment and loss, usually starting with our family of origin dynamics. Many of my patients are the Adult Children of Alcoholics and Addicts.
I work to help you with your attachment style so you can find new ways to have satisfying and trustworthy relationships.
I am a MarriageFamily Therapist as well as a Psychologist and help many couples find their way back into the satisfying loving attachment that they began with.
If your attachments aren't good, then you are lonely &or depressed. We can change this.
Last but not least, I am APA-Certified and have 30 years of experience in treating addictions. Whether you have an addiction or you are hurting from having a loved one that is suffering from addiction, I can help and being able to help is very gratifying to me as a therapist.
My Role as a Therapist
I am kind of like a guide, how active I am depends on your needs but I am definitely interactive & interpersonal. I listen well but I do more than just listen.
I believe that you have the answers and I have the questions. Very often our view of the things that bother us is just a little off kilter and the right questions help us to put things into a better perspective.
Psychotherapy is a bit of an art because we are not all the same and this makes it very interesting to me.
Of course, we have similarities and psychology is a science but while the science is used in working with you, often in the questions, we are working together toward the right outcome for you. And that is the art!
Why Going to Therapy Does Not Mean You are Weak or Flawed
This is a big question and unfortunate stigma that too many people struggle with. I think, no I know, that it takes a lot of courage and character to come in to see a stranger, take your chances and begin looking at and learning about yourself.
However, it is also a smart decision. Many people say why can't I just talk to a friend? I think there are at least three reasons.
1) Confidentiality is guaranteed with a therapist. It is not guaranteed with a friend. And many times friends cannot keep themselves from a little bit of gossiping.
2) Friends have agendas; therapists don't. For example, you may be thinking to break off a relationship. I as a therapist have no stake in it. I only care about helping you make the best decision for yourself. But your friend may want you to break it off for their own personal reasons like having you more to themselves. Or maybe your friend is part of a couple and enjoys socializing with you as a couple, and if you break up it affects his or her social life.
Much of the time your decisions have at least some impact on your friends, so their feedback will consciously or unconsciously, be affected by their own personal agenda.
3) Unless your friend is a doctor too, they will not have the education in psychology to help you as you should be helped. But even then, doctors are not supposed to treat their families or close friends because they can't have the same objectivity like they do with their patients, to make the right decisions.