My Approach to Helping
Therapy for me is about connection. I think we spend most of our lives feeling alone and not understood. I think therapy can be a safe and supportive place to connect with another person and to explore what you want your connections with others to look like. I use my natural curiosity in therapy to try to understand people and create a non-judgmental space where you can share what's really on your mind.
I don't give advice in therapy. Rather, I'll work with you to get to the root of your problems. My goal is to create a place where you feel comfortable working toward your goals. I often find that change starts happening as soon as you start accepting yourself without judgment. Luke had Yoda. Robin had Batman. Some days, we all need help to find ourselves.
More Info About My Practice
My fees are $173 per session, though I have a limited number of financial need slots for $78 per session. I do not accept insurance, but am glad to provide you with a bill that you can submit to your health insurance company. Please contact them first to find out about reimbursement.
What I Love about Being a Psychotherapist
I love being able to talk about the "elephant in the room." We spend so much time in society wearing masks and being polite. Although that can be helpful in fitting in, often it can leave you feeling isolated.
When someone dies, we tell each other things like, "he's in a better place," or "God needed his angel back." Although I appreciate the sentiment and the desire to care for others, sometimes what the person grieving needs to hear is, "That sucks. I don't understand why it happened and I don't have the words to fix your sadness."
As a therapist, I try hard to see the person under the social mask. I love going home after work knowing that someone felt comfortable enough with me to be real. Often, I find that as soon as someone feels understood, they discover the power in themselves to change and grow.
Important Factors for Choosing a Therapist
I think the most important factor in finding the right therapist is to find one you feel comfortable with. Therapy, if it's done right, can be challenging and at times you may want to quit. If you're working with a therapist whom you trust and who can help you stick with it even when things get difficult, it makes it easier to successfully change.
I also think a good therapist will have a balance between being supportive and being challenging. If you start with someone and have concerns about how therapy is going, it's important to be with a therapist with whom you can discuss those concerns openly. For me, the final important ingredient is a sense of humor. Although we talk about difficult topics in our field, laughing can be healthy!