My Approach to Helping
As a relationship therapist, my work is focused on helping couples and individuals better understand what makes them act the way they do. Problematic relationship patterns can be resolved once they are carefully understood. Are you struggling to be more engaged in an intimate relationship, wondering if it will ever improve? Do you worry that some of the things you are doing might keep others at a distance? Do you need help understanding how to keep the flame burning? I can help.
I work with couples, men and women who struggle to maintain the emotional connection in their relationships. With a calm and steady focus, I help the people I work with develop more satisfying and honest relationships, and to let go of old wounds and fears that can hold you back.
More Info About My Practice
Before coming to the Bay Area I grew up in the UK, the Midwest and Australia. I have traveled extensively around Europe, the Middle East, Asia and Australia. I am especially interested in working with cross-cultural couples. I welcome couples, men, women and people who identify as LGBTQ.
Why Going to Therapy Does Not Mean You are Weak or Flawed
It takes some real strength to come to therapy. Opening yourself up to wade through difficult emotional material on a weekly basis can be tough, so the pace has to be just right to want to keep going. So many of us have received the message that we should be strong and independent, and toughing it out alone is the best way to make it through. When you run into trouble with this stance, it can fill you with shame and self-doubt. People who I work with have generally explored a lot of avenues to try to feel better: self-help books, meditation, religion, positive psychology and mind-altering drugs. What I can offer is not change itself, but the chance to dig in with curiosity about the challenges you face, and to hold for you the hope that change and healing are truly possible.