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Help! My Inability to Trust Is Destroying My Relationships March 7, 2014 . 7 Comments
Thank you so much for writing, and I’m very sorry to hear about your loss. The short version of my answer is: continue counseling, and make sure it’s the right fit. Ideally, we want ... Read More
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How Trauma Impacts Authentic Expression
March 3, 2014 .
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There are different kinds of trauma, but in general an experience can be considered traumatic when what is happening threatens to overwhelm those involved, making them feel helpless. Some ... Read More
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Gay and Lesbian Parenting: What to Tell the Children
February 27, 2014 .
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All children want to know about their origins. As their minds develop and their understanding of the world grows, their questions go deeper. Toddlers ask where babies come from; teenagers ... Read More
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How Learning about Child Development Can Improve Your Parenting
February 25, 2014 .
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A great deal of what we bring to our roles as parents comes from the way our own parents treated us. This includes the big areas of values and morality, as well as the smaller corners of ... Read More
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Aging and Relationships: A Tale of Dementia’s Toll
February 24, 2014 .
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“Mary, would you like some soup?” Thomas asked. “No, dear,” Mary answered, “but, I’ll have a corned beef on rye.” “Mary, you remember the ... Read More
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Does Your Partner Know Your Sexual Fantasies? Why Not?
February 24, 2014 .
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Many couples with whom I work continue to return (or call back if they’re in distance therapy). They find it’s helpful to have regular “tune-ups” even after we have repaired and ... Read More
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Feeling Good Yet? Seven Ways to Boost Endorphins
February 21, 2014 .
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Known as the body’s natural “feel-good” chemicals, endorphins stimulate feelings of pleasure, well-being, and pain relief, making them an essential component in a balanced, happy ... Read More
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My Wife Is Pregnant. What If It Isn’t My Child? February 21, 2014 . 11 Comments
What a complicated, challenging situation you find yourself in! There is no one way you are supposed to feel. I’d expect you to be more than a bit confused. It sounds as if you and your ... Read More
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Conflict and the Thinker/Feeler Struggle in Relationships
February 20, 2014 .
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The thinking/feeling dichotomy was first connected to individual differences in psychological types (personalities) by Carl Jung. It is used in the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator’s personality ... Read More
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Individuation and Children of Divorce: When Daddy Doesn’t Care
February 12, 2014 .
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Feeling good about oneself can be a lifelong struggle for many children of divorce. When the parent who leaves becomes less involved, interested, and loving, many children develop an intense ... Read More
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When It All Falls Apart: Trauma’s Impact on Intimate Relationships
February 11, 2014 .
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When something traumatic happens, the result can be the development of a variety of symptoms that impair a person’s ability to function. These symptoms reverberate beyond the person who ... Read More
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Sexual Intimacy After Childbirth: When It Isn’t Like Before February 11, 2014 . 8 Comments
For many women, having a baby is a long-awaited blessing. You have been carrying a baby for nine (or even 10) months; you might have been trying to become pregnant for a while; and your ... Read More