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Why Is Emotional Abuse So Difficult to Recognize?
January 27, 2017 .
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Emotional abuse can be every bit as devastating to individuals and relationships as physical and sexual abuse. And the pain of experiencing emotional abuse can be heightened when you feel ... Read More
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How to Heal from the Narcissistic Abuse of a Parent
November 16, 2016 .
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To recover from the emotional abuse caused by a parent with narcissistic tendencies, you must repair your reality—a reality that has been skewed and damaged by your experience of parenting. ... Read More
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Is It Domestic Violence If I Am Not Being Hit?
October 13, 2016 .
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Many people struggle to understand how our culture defines domestic violence. Some believe that to constitute domestic violence, a person must be beaten or violently struck in some way. ... Read More
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Unreality Check: Cognitive Dissonance in Narcissistic Abuse
October 7, 2016 .
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People who are healing from toxic love relationships do well to educate themselves on the nature of the emotional abuse sustained so that they can move through their pain to a place of ... Read More
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Reclaiming Your Voice: Saying No to Emotional Abuse
July 7, 2016 .
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The term “domestic violence” is an umbrella term that encompasses so much more than just physical violence. It involves a pattern of manipulative behaviors meant to control and maintain ... Read More
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How to Recognize and Overcome Childhood Emotional Neglect
February 18, 2016 .
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Because it’s mostly silent and invisible, childhood emotional neglect is largely an overlooked phenomenon in psychology. Unlike physical neglect or abuse, where there are signs such as ... Read More
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Is Being ‘Thick-Skinned’ Your Strength or Your Weakness?
November 4, 2015 .
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You’re strong. You’re thick-skinned. You don’t take it personally when someone vents emotional distress on you. These are admirable, useful qualities. Having thick skin makes it easier ... Read More
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You Married an Emotionally Abusive Person. Now What?
April 6, 2015 .
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Matt and Michele, as we’ll call them, had a pretty good engagement period. Matt spoiled Michele with flowers and sweet, little notes. They went to movies, took long walks, had heart-to-heart ... Read More
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Idealize, Devalue, Discard: The Dizzying Cycle of Narcissism
March 25, 2015 .
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The relationship cycle typical of extreme narcissistic abuse generally follows a pattern. Individuals in emotionally abusive relationships experience a dizzying whirlwind that includes ... Read More
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‘Hoover Maneuver’: The Dirty Secret of Emotional Abuse
February 19, 2015 .
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People encounter those with narcissism in love, work, and family relationships. When I provide psychotherapy for survivors of narcissistic abuse, one of the first steps in the healing process ... Read More
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The Dynamics of Abuse Within Families and Relationships
January 30, 2015 .
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It is the nature of abuse within families to be as behaviorally nuanced and emotionally complex as the individuals involved. Relationship abuses nearly inevitably reveal a life-draining ... Read More
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Gaslighting: A Slow-Burning Emotional Abuse Tactic
January 21, 2015 .
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In my work with people who have survived narcissistic abuse, I find that many have endured a devastating form of emotional abuse called gaslighting. The film Gaslight (1944), starring Ingrid ... Read More