Non-Violent Communication was Developed by: Marshall Rosenberg
Overview of Non-Violent Communication: “Non-violent communication is a Language for Life. We all have difficult situations in our lives, whether it be with a partner, our child/children, a work colleague or a friend or neighbour. The way most people have learned to communicate is not often effective in resolving the conflict and getting our needs met. Non-violent communication could be called 'Compassionate Communication'. It is a tool you can use which will help to have a profound effect on your relationships in all areas of your life. Brought to the UK by Marshall Rosenberg, NVC replaces our old patterns of defending, withdrawing or attacking in the face of judgment and criticism. We come to perceive ourselves and others in a new light. Marshall travels worldwide, applying NVC to such places as prisons in the Middle East and warring tribes in Africa. The application of NVC speaks for itself - it has truly turned difficult/threatening situations completely around. If only everyone on the planet could learn it!” ~ Excerpt from Inspirational Friends
”NVC involves both communication skills that foster compassionate relating and consciousness of the interdependence of our well being and using power with others to work together to meet the needs of all concerned.
This approach to communication emphasizes compassion as the motivation for action rather than fear, guilt, shame, blame, coercion, threat or justification for punishment. In other words, it is about getting what you want for reasons you will not regret later. NVC is NOT about getting people to do what we want. It is about creating a quality of connection that gets everyone’s needs met through compassionate giving.
The process of NVC encourages us to focus on what we and others are observing separate from our interpretations and judgments, to connect our thoughts and feelings to underlying human needs/values (e.g. protection, support, love), and to be clear about what we would like towards meeting those needs. These skills give the ability to translate from a language of criticism, blame, and demand into a language of human needs -- a language of life that consciously connects us to the universal qualities “alive in us” that sustain and enrich our well being, and focuses our attention on what actions we could take to manifest these qualities.” ~ Excerpt from The Center for Nonviolent Communication
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it is very easy to ask another person not to do something, because them not doing that would be in our favor.but if the same person says something similar, like asking us not to do something,we feel offended.it is but natural...each one of us needs to find the right balance and realize that even others hate to be told what to do and what not to do just as much as we do.
Hey I am a wife not a mother and the way I see things it is not my job to tell my husband what he should or should not do. He is a grown man and should be reliable enough and responsible enough to make his own decisions and then deal with the consequences.
The partners in any relationship are equal irrespective of whether it is the man or the woman...and each would expect the other to deal with respect and be nice to them. If one partner instructs the other to do or not do something, it can really hurt the person at the recieveing end and may bring problems into the relationship.
Every person has an ego, and it is no different for a couple. Both the partners do have an ego. The right thing to do would be to steer clear of the danger zone and not to hurt your partner's ego...
The more someone tells me I should not do something the more that makes me want to do it anyway
Good advice. You should also focus on your tone of voice. A sharp tone denotes a desire for control, while a vulnerable tone challenges your partner to care about the issue because you care about the issue.