Encounter-centered Couples Therapy: The Amends Journey After an Affair

Presented by Hedy Schleifer, MA, LMHC on 05-12-2017 at 9 a.m. Pacific (noon Eastern) to 11 a.m. Pacific (2 p.m. Eastern)

In the aftermath of an affair, how does a therapist help a couple restore and strengthen their relational bond? What is an effective way to help a couple avoid the trap of “perpetrator” and “victim” and enable them to make authentic amends? To achieve these goals, therapists must help create a relational and emotional ambience in which the mutual expression and acceptance of deep regret and genuine forgiveness can occur.

In this two-hour continuing education web conference, Encounter-centered Couples Therapy (EcCT) founder, Hedy Schleifer, LMHC, will explore the realm of the "encounter" for a couple who is in the throes of emotional pain and confusion after an affair. The realm of the encounter combines the words of each partner's individual story with the body's vast potential for emotional and spiritual expression. Attendees will enhance their clinical skills of holding space for the individuals as they enter a new connection as a couple.

Hedy will delve into the EcCT Amends Journey, a ritual that helps couples heal the rupture of an affair and create a relational space of compassion and forgiveness. EcCT teaches couples to become "bilingual" by learning and internalizing the vocabulary of their partner so each other’s narrative becomes fully understood. Attendees will develop a clearer vision of how to achieve a more relaxed and responsive therapeutic stance with couples after an affair. 

Hedy will decode the complex distinction between the reactive, adaptive survival dance, and the intentional dance of life in connection, with a special focus on the disconnection and the re-connection after an affair. Attendees will discover that EcCt is an original approach for helping couples heal from the recent wounds of an affair, as well as old wounds from their own childhoods, to generate newer and stronger bonds in the post-affair relationship.

This intermediate instructional level web conference is designed to help clinicians:

  1. Recognize the distinction between the fragmented approach based on the victim-perpetrator paradigm and the process of dissolving the victim-perpetrator "trap.”
  2. Describe at least two of the relational theories that are the underpinnings of Encounter-centered Couples Therapy.
  3. Apply a step-by-step pragmatic, therapeutic structure to support couples in healing. 
  4. Utilize practical techniques for assisting couples in growing their attention span, focus, concentration, and engaged presence to each other.
  5. Explain the concepts of the brain-bridge and limbic resonance as elements of increased internal regulation and finer attunement for the couple.

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How the Web Conference Works

Before the scheduled event, all registered attendees will be sent a reminder email from GoodTherapy.org with specific instructions on how to log in to the web conference center, as well as links to optional handout materials if applicable. 

To attend the event, registered attendees will log in to the web conference center using a computer or device (smartphone or tablet with internet access) and calling in to the teleconference line on a phone. Attendees will be able to ask live audio questions via phone and/or submit text chat questions via their computer or device. Attendees who are logged in to the event center will be able to see live streaming video and/or document sharing. Alternatively, attendees may dial in to the teleconference line only, though attendees dialing in by phone only will be unable to ask questions. 

At the conclusion of this event, participants will receive an email with information about how to request a CE certificate in the GoodTherapy.org Member's Area. To confirm attendance, participants must enter the start and end codes announced at the beginning and end of the live presentation. Participants will also be prompted to complete an online survey evaluating the event. Participants will need to complete this online survey within six days after the event. Once completed, participants will be able to download a copy of their CE certificate instantly. 

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Continuing Education (CE) Information

2 CE contact hours will be provided by GoodTherapy.org for attending this web conference in its entirety. 

GoodTherapy.org is an Approved Education Provider by NAADAC, The Association for Addiction Professionals (provider #135463). Of the eight counselor skill groups ascribed to by NAADAC, this course is classified within counseling services. 

GoodTherapy.org is an NBCC-Approved Continuing Education Provider (ACEPTM) and may offer NBCC-approved clock hours for events that meet NBCC requirements.

This organization, GoodTherapy.org, provider #1352, is approved as a provider for social work continuing education by the Association of Social Work Boards (ASWB) www.aswb.org through the Approved Continuing Education (ACE) program. GoodTherapy.org maintains responsibility for the program. ASWB Approval Period: March 30, 2016 through March 30, 2019. Social workers should contact their regulatory board to determine course approval for continuing education credits. Social workers participating in this course will receive two clinical continuing education clock hours.

GoodTherapy.org is approved by the American Psychological Association to sponsor continuing education for psychologists. GoodTherapy.org maintains responsibility for this program and its content.

GoodTherapy.org, SW CPE is recognized by the New York State Education Department's State Board for Social Work as an approved provider of continuing education for licensed social workers #0395.

GoodTherapy.org, LLC is recognized by the New York State Education Department's State Board for Mental Health Practitioners as an approved provider of continuing education for licensed marriage and family therapists #MFT-0022 and for licensed mental health counselors #MHC-0031.

Registration Information

This web conference is available at no cost to GoodTherapy.org members.

Meet the Presenter

Hedy Schleifer, MA, LMHC

Hedy Schleifer, MA, LMHC

Hedy Schleifer, MA, LMHC is an internationally known psychotherapist, trainer, relationship coach, workshop presenter, and motivational speaker. Currently a licensed mental health counselor in Florida. Hedy earned her Master of Arts in Clinical and Child Psychology from Tel Aviv University in Israel and is a licensed clinical psychologist in Israel.

Certified by Harville Hendrix, PhD as an Imago therapist, workshop presenter, and clinical instructor, Hedy and her husband, Yumi, pioneered the expansion of Imago Relationship Therapy in several countries. They have trained hundreds of therapists and workshop presenters and led relationship workshops for couples. Hedy founded the Tikkun Learning Center in 2010 to train relationship therapists in Encounter-centered Couples Therapy (EcCT) which she considers to be the crystallization of her life’s work into the concept of the “three invisible connectors”: the Space, the Bridge, and the Encounter. Hedy believes world peace begins with the human family, and that this peace can best be achieved by creating strong relationships that grow into committed, mature partnerships.

Today, Hedy travels extensively throughout the world bringing her passion and expertise in the art of relationships and conflict dissolution to many settings, spanning the mental health, healthcare, religious, educational, and corporate communities. Hedy currently bases her trainings and work with couples on an integrative approach inspired by the philosophy of Martin Buber, as well as a variety of relational methodologies including Imago Relationship Therapy, Appreciative Inquiry, Re-evaluation Counseling, and Relational Neuro-biology.

For more information about Hedy Schleifer and her work, please visit www.hedyyumi.com or www.adventureInIntimacy.com.

Continuing Education Provider Approvals

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    GoodTherapy.org is Approved by the American Psychological Association to sponsor continuing education for psychologists. GoodTherapy.org maintains responsibility for this program and its content. GoodTherapy.org received APA approval in May 2011. Events after 2011 may meet APA requirements for Continuing Education credits.
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    GoodTherapy.org has been approved by NBCC as an Approved Continuing Education Provider, ACEP No. 6380. Programs that do not qualify for NBCC credit are clearly identified. GoodTherapy.org is solely responsible for all aspects of the programs.
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    This course has been approved by GoodTherapy.org, as a NAADAC Approved Education Provider, for educational credits. NAADAC Provider #135463. GoodTherapy.org is responsible for all aspects of their programming.
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    GoodTherapy.org, provider #1352, is approved as a provider for social work continuing education by the Association of Social Work Boards (ASWB) www.aswb.org through the Approved Continuing Education (ACE) Program. GoodTherapy.org maintains responsibility for the program. ASWB Approval Period: 03/30/2016 – 03/30/2019. Social workers should contact their regulatory board to determine course approval for continuing education credits. Social workers participating in this course will receive 2 clinical continuing education clock hours.
  • GoodTherapy.org, LLC is recognized by the New York State Education Department's State Board for Social Work as an approved provider of continuing education for licensed social workers #SW-0395.
  • GoodTherapy.org, LLC is recognized by the New York State Education Department's State Board for Mental Health Practitioners as an approved provider of continuing education for licensed marriage and family therapists #MFT-0022 and for licensed mental health counselors #MHC-0031.