I view the therapeutic relationship as an attachment relationship--a place for learning to change relationship patterns that don't work. And, I believe that when it comes to all relationships, how we go about repairing them often matters more than the ruptures we create.
I see each of my clients as uniquely molded by their families of origin, relationships, experiences, emotions, memories, coping strategies, values, beliefs, roles, identities, gender, spirituality, sexuality, culture, politics, etc. Most importantly, these systems that inform, and the parts that make up my clients matter to me, and all are welcome in my clinical practice.
I use an approach of curiosity and compassion to help my clients understand themselves better and gain self-acceptance. And, as an experiential therapist, I work with what my clients bring me on any given day. I accept my clients for where they are at, and I commit to helping clients get to where (and who and what) they want to be.
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Had a Negative Therapy Experience?
So did I. In fact, I had more negative than positive experiences. Because of this, I realized that a good therapist doesn't sit passively and just listen (randomly throwing in the requisite "and how does that make you feel"). They must engage, challenge assumptions, and show genuine compassion. After a lot of trial and error, I found that therapist and she changed my life. For the better.
When I started thinking about myself as a therapist, I realized that I could never be one who is passive or generic in my approach. That is why you'll find in me someone who is animated, engaged, honest, curious, analytical, empathetic, non-judgmental, challenging and direct. I am truly interested in, and committed to my clients. And, I nurture strong therapeutic relationships because I believe that is context in which real change begins.