My Approach to Helping
Few of us soar through life with wings unscathed. Psychotherapy is for anyone who wants to explore his or her potential, stretch their limits, gain insight, discover what holds them back, and recall what nourishes their soul. Imagine the special care a potted fern requires: filtered light, regular turning, correct watering, fertilizer, and avoidance of exposure to fungus or insects. Given all these elements in the best proportions, our fern will become beautiful, flowing, symmetrical, lush, and green with strong healthy roots. However, if the plant receives only a subset of its necessary parameters, or receives them in less than optimal proportions, our fern will probably experience some combination of uneven growth, asymmetry, disease, discoloration, and unhealthy roots. Now imagine that the fern represents your psyche, your potential, your inner self, your issue. Describe what you sense. How does it look, feel, and smell? What has been nurtured? What has been neglected? What needs to be done? The therapy process can be thought of as a cycle that consists of tending the fern: we take a close look at it, celebrate the beauty and strengths of its current form, discover anything we may want to change, discuss our willingness and capacity to make those changes, make a plan, go forward with the plan, evaluate the results, and finally, evaluate whether to start the cycle again. We can stop the process at any time for any reason, including results of satisfaction!
More Info About My Practice
I work with adults and couples of any age or orientation. I will also work with older teens on request. You and I will work as a team by examining your issue(s), history, desires, goals, thoughts, behaviors, and feelings. We'll look at your own unique set of strengths and abilities, influences in your life, and choices you've made--all of which will help us gain insight into your issue(s). We'll discuss your readiness to make a change, forge a plan with manageable steps, and go forward with it. I believe that our relationship is key to our success. At our initial meeting(s) please evaluate whether I am a person you could see yourself opening up to. Meet with me a time or two and we can decide if we are a good enough match for this important work. If you feel that we are not a good match, please speak up. I will be happy to refer you and wish you well.
What I Love about Being a Psychotherapist
I love working with people to help them sort out troubles and issues. It is a privilege to be allowed to witness another human working through a growth process. I don't mind the grieving or ranting with them over losses or failures, and I love celebrating with them even the slightest success. Change isn't always easy; I'm in there with you for the long run, and I find it very rewarding.
What Makes up a Problem?
Each of us is born into a unique set of circumstances, and we have all learned to operate within our given genetic mix, environmental influences, life experiences and opportunities, upbringing, culture, temperament, personality, and so on. Biology, psychology, social factors, and spirituality all play roles in shaping our lives, and influence the choices we make. It is often helpful to revisit the choices we made long ago, and re-evaluate them based on our current situation.