My Approach to Helping
Whatever the problems are that you are experiencing now, most likely they developed over time. For example if you are currently experiencing feelings of low self-value, I want to help you find the source of those feelings. It may have been one extremely negative experience, but more often, it has come from repeated experiences of the same theme. You have formed beliefs about yourself, your abilities, your place in the world and what you deserve in life. What if you had never had those negative experiences? How differently might you feel now? Well, we cannot undo the past, but we can change how you feel about those events. Both EFT and EMDR are the best methods I know of, both professionally and personally, to clear negative emotions and reactions to past unpleasant memories. When those negative feelings are released, your present thoughts and responses become more peaceful. In the case of our example, you feel better about yourself.
What I Love about Being a Psychotherapist
I have had struggles in my own life. Even though some experiences were quite painful, I sometimes wonder if I needed those experiences so that I could understand what others feel. At any rate, from my own experiences I understand the effects of emotional pain, and the freedom and peace that comes with its release.
I love building a relationship with someone, learning about their life and working together to find a resolution to a problem. We become partners in a search for a better way to feel. It is amazing how much a past experience can influence thought and response to life in the present. When that pain is released, there is freedom from limiting beliefs. Life feels better. That is the moment I work for with clients.
On the Fence About Going to Therapy?
When you make a decision to enter therapy, you are coming to share personal and private information with the expectation that your therapist will help you understand your issue and create the changes in thought and behavior necessary to improve the quality of your life. The therapist's part in this is to create a safe environment and to be competent and confident that he or she can be helpful with your particular issues. Your part is to commit your time and effort to the challenges of exploring and clearing your issues and to be as open and honest about your experiences and feelings as you can. Therapy isn't always fun, but the rewards can be life-changing.