My Approach to Helping
I work with men and couples to help improve their relationships. I help couples go beyond the same old scripts and blaming arguments to help them work smarter and collaboratively. I find that helping couples with difficult conversations moves them forward to be able to help themselves. It isn't my goal to keep men or couples in therapy for as long as I can. I find that having clear goals and focused discussions where couples feel they "get somewhere" is critical to client satisfaction and willingness to participate in therapy. Couples and men often report they wished they had come in sooner before their issues had caused so many hurt feelings and harm in the relationship. If you're ready to do more of what works and less of the same old things that leave you feeling worn out and wanting to "forget" about problems until they come up again, call today.
More Info About My Practice
Marriage and couples counseling isn't always covered by insurance. In those situations where it is, I accept most major insurances. In those situations where it is not I have payment at time of service and prepayment plans for discounts to make therapy accessible.
My Role as a Therapist
I help couples move beyond the same old win/lose arguments about dishes, money and sex to focus on building up the relationship. I often help couples realize that what they want is for someone to care about them and care for them. Settling fights that get stuck in the same dynamic of win/lose can't achieve that. Creating a safe place, providing education and helping people explore what they need from a marriage helps couples build lasting skills that meet real needs and not just chore lists, budgets and obliging sex.
What I Say to People Concerned about the Therapy Process
My goal in therapy with couples isn't to pick a winner. Each person has contributed to the stalemates that cause them to reach out to me for help. I keep a balanced and supportive role to help each partner understand how their unmet needs, coping skills, values and beliefs both help and hinder effective communication and loving expression for their partner.