My Approach to Helping
I have helped individuals and couples with a wide range of issues for over 20 years. Each course of therapy is different, as it depends on and responds to your unique qualities, circumstances, concerns, and needs. Generally, though, my approach draws from various orientations, and emphasizes (i) listening attentively, supportively, and non-judgmentally, helping you to feel understood and accepted; (ii) enhancing awareness and understanding of feelings, and how feelings are related to thoughts and behavior; (iii) identifying and challenging counterproductive thoughts; (iv) helping people identify their "default" reactions, and enhancing their recognition of other options; and (v) encouraging and facilitating related change and growth.
In couples and marital therapy, partners often start with different perspectives: Often one person is more unhappy than the other; other times, both are unhappy but are bothered by different things or see the relationship problems differently. I try to create a safe and productive environment in therapy by (i) compassionately and respectfully understanding EACH partner's perspective; (ii) helping each person to better understand himself/herself, her/his partner, and relationship patterns; and (iii) identifying new, more constructive ways of dealing with feelings, conflict, and problematic aspects of the relationship.