My Approach to Helping
My practice focuses exclusively on assisting couples to understand how missteps occur in their relationships - and replacing them with new patterns to create a rich, rewarding, secure and functioning marriage or couple-ship.
If your marriage isn't feeling stable, likely you're experiencing some combination of heart ache, worry, hurt, resentment and perhaps some fears. Intense emotions are simply going to happen when our relationship feels threatened. But as strong emotions increase, our ability to think clearly, solve problems, or even "hear" each other's experience will almost always decrease.
There are times when 'how much you love each other' isn't the most important factor for being secure and connected with each other. And being immersed in a culture with an abundance of myths and beliefs about love and relationships, it's easy to get confused when you're having difficulties in a relationship with someone you love.
But, your marriage or partnership is likely to be the most complex relationship in your life. It'll go through many phases and transitions, face challenges from outside demands, and encounter natural ebbs and flows of intimacy. And marriage in the 21st century is more challenging than ever before. We've never put so many expectations on our partners to fill so many roles - while the busyness and other demands of daily life also just keep increasing. At the same time, we've never had so many distractions and technologies that often unintentionally interfere with our connection and intimacy.
At Asheville Marriage Counseling I combine scientific research on what makes secure marriages work, neuroscience about how our brains actually function , and 48+ years of counseling experience to collaborate with you and guide you into creating a high quality secure connection in your unique marriage.
More Info About My Practice:
My job is distilling down the knowledge, wisdom, and science behind successful relationships and guiding you to build this into your relationship... in manageable and practical bite sized pieces. Your job is to be open and committed to having the relationship you want... and making your relationship a priority for a few months as you explore and practice what we cover in your counseling sessions. And frankly, being willing to put forth the effort that is simply essential to create new patterns of interaction with your partner.
You can learn more at my website from the articles and videos I have addressing relationships in more detail.
Or if you're ready to take action now, call me for a consultation.
I provide a free full hour for our initial consultation. If you are going to invest your trust in me to assist you with your most important relationship, I want us to have sufficient time together for you to feel confident about that decision.
Specific Issue(s) I'm Skilled at Helping With:
Having reached my own 'senior years', I have a greater understanding of issues unique to later life relationships, whether long standing or new. While I certainly work with couples of all ages, I find my age and experience often allows a degree of compassion and understanding into some unique aspects of relationships in our senior years, that I simply couldn't have before being in that age group myself.