My practice focuses exclusively on assisting couples to understand how missteps occur in their relationships - and replacing them with new patterns to create a rich, rewarding, secure and functioning marriage or couple-ship.

If your marriage isn't feeling stable, likely you're experiencing some combination of heart ache, worry, hurt, resentment and perhaps some fears. Intense emotions are simply going to happen when our relationship feels threatened. But strong emotions go hand in hand with a decrease in our ability to think clearly, solve problems, or even "hear" each other's experience.

There are times when 'how much you love each other' isn't the most important factor for being secure and connected with each other. And being immersed in a culture with many false myths and beliefs about love and relationships, it's easy to get confused when you're having difficulties in a relationship with someone you love.

But, your marriage or partnership is the most complex relationship in your life. It'll go through many phases and transitions, face challenges from outside demands, and encounter natural ebbs and flows of intimacy. And marriage in the 21st century is more challenging than ever before. We've never put so many expectations on our partners to fill so many roles - while the busyness and other demands of daily life just keep increasing. At the same time, we've never had so many distractions and technologies that can unintentionally interfere with connection and intimacy.

At Asheville Marriage Counseling I combine scientific research on what makes secure marriages work, neuroscience about how our brains actually function , and 45+ years of counseling experience to collaborate with you and guide you into creating a high quality secure connection in your unique marriage.