My Approach to Helping
Are poor communication skills damaging your relationships? I can help. I practice relationship counseling and marriage therapy in Newport Beach, CA., specializing in helping clients either individually or with their partner.
You will learn to feel more loved and cared about, to reduce resentment and appreciate the differences between you, to de-escalate the hostility in your arguments, to create more intimacy and increase your connection with your partner, to stop blaming your partner (and yourself), to understand each other better, and to really speak and listen well so BOTH of you can get what you want and need.
I also specialize in helping you rebuild trust after a major breach, such as infidelity. I know what a heart-breaking, gut- wrenching time this is in your life and will walk you through it in order to help you really heal. Couples can and do recover from an affair or other breach of trust, and can experience a relationship that is far healthier and loving than they have ever known.
More Info About My Practice
I subscribe to the philosophy that while communication skills are crucial, the MOST important thing is how connected we feel to our partner and how emotionally secure we feel. When we feel emotionally secure, we can be ourselves in our relationships and have a good balance of feeling:
loved and cared about, as well as loving and caring
a strong commitment to your parnter and a strong commitment from your partner
accepted for yourself, as well as accepting of your partner
trusting of your partner, as well as being trustworthy
able to rely on your partner when life gets tough, as well as to be dependable for your partner
I'm the author of an e-Book called "What You Are REALLY Arguing About" that reveals how I approach the first session with every new client and identifies the three most important areas where couples tend to struggle. It will show you how to assess your connection with your partner and how to figure out your relationship's strengths and weaknesses. You will also learn the true underlying concerns that fuel your arguments and how to determine what it is you are wanting and needing from your partner. You can find my e-Book at my website.
Specific Issue(s) I'm Skilled at Helping With
Communication issues, feeling lonely, disconnected, infidelity, betrayal and trust issues, strengthening the underlying couple friendship, new relationships, moving past a break-up, helping you learn to have good boundaries and stand up for yourself, getting your needs across to your partner, feeling OK with or without a relationship.
How Psychotherapy Can Help
Therapy and/or coaching can help individuals and couples gain perspective on their situation, communicate better, learn to empathize with each other instead of fighting, get the skills to really hear each other, to heal from small and large betrayals, and to feel more loved.
Why Going to Therapy Does Not Mean You are Weak or Flawed
I am best at helping couples increase their connection, and communicate their wants and needs in an effective way. Good relationships are a balance of love, skill, and commitment. The love and commitment will see us through a majority of our issues, but we still need skills to keep the love alive. We never learned these skills anywhere! Let me coach you on a more effective way.