My Approach to Helping
Are underdeveloped communication and relational skills damaging your relationships? I can help. I practice relationship counseling and marriage therapy in Newport Beach, CA., specializing in helping clients either individually or with their partner.
Because our most important relationship is with ourselves, this is a great place to start. I often utilize brainspotting in helping clients go deeper than traditional talk therapy can go. Brainspotting is a technique that helps you understand yourself better, feel more self-compassion and a sense of well-being, and can reduce anxiety.
I offer skills training in speaking and listening and a wide range of help for relationships for dating couples, pre-marital couples, and married couples.
More Info About My Practice
I subscribe to the philosophy that while communication skills are crucial, the MOST important thing is how connected we feel to our partner and how emotionally secure we feel. When we feel emotionally secure, we can be ourselves in our relationships and have a good balance of feeling:
loved and cared about, as well as being loving and caring
a strong commitment to your partner and a strong commitment from your partner
accepted for yourself, as well as accepting of your partner
trusting of your partner, as well as being trustworthy
able to rely on your partner when life gets tough, as well as to be dependable for your partner
I'm the author of an e-Book called "What You Are REALLY Arguing About" that reveals how I approach the first session with every new client and identifies the three most important areas where couples tend to struggle. It will show you how to assess your connection with your partner and how to figure out your relationship's strengths and weaknesses. You will also learn the true underlying concerns that fuel your arguments and how to determine what it is you are wanting and needing from your partner. You can find my e-Book at my website.
Specific Issue(s) I'm Skilled at Helping With
Communication issues, feeling lonely, disconnected, betrayal and trust issues, strengthening the underlying couple friendship, new relationships, moving past a break-up, helping you learn to have good boundaries and stand up for yourself, getting your wantsneeds across to your partner, feeling OK with or without a relationship.
How Psychotherapy Can Help
Therapy andor coaching can help individuals and couples get to know themselves better, heal past and current hurts, gain perspective on their situation, communicate better, learn to empathize with each other instead of fighting, get the skills to really hear each other, to heal from small and large betrayals, and to feel more loved.
How My Own Struggles Made Me a Better Therapist
I have been in individual counseling on and off for many years and have gained so many insights and tools to improve my well-being and self-understanding.
I am a brainspotting therapist and I also get brainspotting from a therapist, so I know how powerful that healing modality can be.
I have also been in marriage counseling with my husband after we hit a rough patch after about 9 years of marriage and it truly helped us.