My Approach to Helping
I work with individuals and couples who are experiencing a gap between the life that they want and the life that they have.
Because our most important relationship is with ourselves, this is a great place to start. I often utilize brainspotting in helping clients go deeper than traditional talk therapy can go. Brainspotting is a therapeutic modality that helps you resolve emotional wounds, reduce anxiety, understand yourself better, feel more self-compassion and a greater sense of well-being.
I also offer communication skills training in speaking and listening and a wide range of relationship help for dating couples, pre-marital couples, and married couples.
More Info About My Practice
I subscribe to the philosophy that while communication skills are crucial, the MOST important thing is how connected we feel to our partner and how emotionally secure we feel. When we feel emotionally secure, we can be ourselves in our relationships and have a good balance of feeling:
loved and cared about, as well as being loving and caring
a strong commitment to your partner and a strong commitment from your partner
accepted for yourself, as well as accepting of your partner
trusting of your partner, as well as being trustworthy
able to rely on your partner when life gets tough, as well as to be dependable for your partner
I'm the author of an e-Book called "What You Are REALLY Arguing About" that reveals how I approach the first session with every new client and identifies the three most important areas where couples tend to struggle. It will show you how to assess your connection with your partner and how to figure out your relationship's strengths and weaknesses. You will also learn the true underlying concerns that fuel your arguments and how to determine what it is you are wanting and needing from your partner. You can find my e-Book at my website.
Specific Issue(s) I'm Skilled at Helping With
Improving your relationship with yourself and others, improving communication, reducing anxiety, increasing the capacity to cope with stress, moving past a break-up, helping you learn to have good boundaries and stand up for yourself, getting your wants and needs across to your partner, feeling OK with or without a relationship, transforming painful life experiences into growth and acceptance.
How Psychotherapy Can Help
Therapy is a safe place where clients can openly share what is in their hearts and minds without judgment. It can help individuals and couples get to know themselves better, heal past and current hurts and traumas, gain perspective on their situation, communicate better, learn to empathize with themselves and each other instead of fighting, learn the skills to really hear each other, to heal from small and large betrayals, and to feel more loved and connected.
How My Own Struggles Made Me a Better Therapist
I am a brainspotting therapist and I also get brainspotting from a therapist, so I know how powerful that healing modality can be.
I have also been in marriage counseling with my husband after we hit a rough patch after about 9 years of marriage and it truly helped us. We recently celebrated 12 years together.
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