My Approach to Helping
I work with individuals who are experiencing discomfort, pain, or suffering that is in some way connected to their sex or sexuality, or due to grief from a death-loss or non-death loss. Is there some way you would like to show up, sexually, in the world but as of yet not been able to do so? Do you have fantasies that you are scared or ashamed to share with your partner(s)? Do you feel overwhelmed by a sense of grief? Do you find yourself crying or becoming angry seemingly out of nowhere? Are your sexual concerns or grief responses impacting your life more than you would like them to? You are not alone in your experience. I have sat with many others experiencing many of the same feelings and more. I will work with you to help you find a sense of ease and bring you closer to the life you want.
More Info About My Practice
When we sit together for the first time my main concern will be to hear you out fully and get a sense of what will be most meaningful for you to work on. As we continue to work together I will pull from my training as a mindfulness-based therapist to help you become more familiar with the way you are relating to your thoughts and feelings. Many of us have an idea of how we “should” be living our lives or how we “should” feel, think, or act. I would like to work with you on examining these ideas that you may be holding yourself to. Are they helping you to feel fulfilled or are they instead causing you to feel even more anxious, depressed, isolated, afraid, or ashamed? I help people to not feel so pulled and pushed around by their thoughts and emotions. In our work together we will seek to find ways where you can become more friendly towards yourself. By doing this, we can open up more avenues to bring about the change you are looking for in your life.
Why Going to Therapy Does Not Mean You are Weak or Flawed
Oftentimes we are at war with ourselves. We may talk down to ourselves, exclaiming that we don't need therapy, that therapy is for sissies. We may tell ourselves that therapy is for crazy people. We instead may try pushing away our problems, ignoring them hoping that they will just go away. Or we may keep ourselves busy with work, relationships, alcohol ,or drugs in order to avoid having to sit with ourselves for any length of time. But no matter how much we try to talk ourselves around it, or ignore it, or cover it up with something else, something in us just doesn't feel at rest. We are walking around on edge all because we are trying to avoid our reality, our reality that we are hurting in some way. Facing our pain is not an easy task. Actually, facing our pain takes a lot of courage. I want to acknowledge the courage that you are showing right now by looking into finding a therapist. In our work together I will show you the same amount of heart and courage. I make this pledge to you now, however painful, however dark or confusing or scary the road goes, I will go down that path with you. This is what I was born to do. This is what I have trained years and years for, and continue to train myself in. Opening up your heart and being vulnerable in front of another human being, is no easy task. But it is also a gift. It is a gift that as human beings we have the capacity to do this for one another. We have the capacity to be real, to be vulnerable with one another and at the same time we also have the capacity to meet others with empathy, understanding, and acknowledge what they are showing us. And so I want to say now, I see you, and I would be honored to work with you and get to be present to see more of you, to hear your story, and to walk with you through the difficult parts. You are in no way weak or flawed, but wondrously human. If you are interested in learning more about my approach or if you think that we may be a good fit together, I would love to be able to speak with you more. Please feel free to reach out to me in order to set up an initial consultation.