Love is Not Enough: When Traumatized Clients Push the Therapist Away

Presented by Robert Muller, PhD, CPsych on 02-01-2013 at 9 a.m. Pacific to 10:30 a.m. Pacific (1:30 p.m. Eastern)

The therapeutic relationship is at the heart of any successful therapy. We all know that empathy, listening, and being attuned to the emotional needs fo the person in therapy makes for a close therapeutic relationship and a strong alliance. But what happens when the traumatized person cannot tolerate closeness? Or when the individual acts out and pushes the therapist away? How can the clinician respond to such enactments? With individuals who adopt a self-protective, help-rejecting stance, psychotherapy can be difficult.

Using attachment theory, Dr. Muller describes transference patterns seen with these hard-to-treat people, including verbal and nonverbal interactions. Using a relational, psychodynamic approach, he considers difficulties such people have in accepting therapist empathy, and the defensive reactions that follow. He examines ways to work with feelings of vulnerability and distancing maneuvers. Therapy techniques include:

  • Resisting the temptation to back away
  • Noticing subtle expressions of vulnerability
  • Noticing verbal and nonverbal emotional responses (such as covering-up, taking-back, and reactions-to prior expressions of vulnerability)
  • Addressing feelings in the moment

This workshop focuses on techniques Dr. Muller developed specifically for this population, included in his award-winning academic book, Trauma and the Avoidant Client: Attachment-Based Strategies for Healing (2010, W.W. Norton). This presentation focuses on clinical technique. Theory is complemented by case examples.

This web conference is advanced instructional level and designed to help clinicians:

  1. Recognize expressions of vulnerability and distancing maneuvers in their work with avoidant trauma patients;
  2. Describe the ways empathy can be a “double-edged sword” when working with this population;
  3. Apply attachment theory and the therapeutic relationship as a productive force in the treatment;
  4. Recognize characteristics of avoidant attachment among adults with trauma histories.

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Meet the Presenter

Robert Muller, PhD, CPsych

Robert Muller, PhD, CPsych

Robert T. Muller, PhD, CPsych, joined the faculty of the University of Massachusetts after completing his clinical fellowship at Harvard University. Dr. Muller has been teaching, practicing, and supervising in psychotherapy, trauma, and attachment theory throughout his career. He founded a trauma center focused on providing help to the under-serviced community. He has written many articles, grants, book chapters, and has authored Trauma and the Avoidant Client: Attachment-Based Strategies for Healing, published by Norton Press. You can read some of his writings on his blog, The Trauma and Attachment Report. Dr. Muller has had an active practice for over twenty years and teaches full-day workshops. He is a sought-after speaker and is on the faculty as an Associate Professor of Clinical Psychology at York University. He holds a position as a supervisor for Hincks-Dellcrest Treatment Center. For more information about Dr. Muller and his work, please visit http://www.yorku.ca/rmuller

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