The Face of Transformation
July 7th, 2009
A GoodTherapy.org Featured Column written by Judith Barr, MA, LMHC
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We are going through a transformation . . . individually and globally. Many people are scared . . . they haven’t been taught about transformation. They haven’t been taught how to go through it.
Many people are afraid . . . so many things that are part of transformation
trigger feelings from long, long ago, trigger fear from long ago.
The triggering is a guide to the healing.
The feelings from earlier times are the guides to our healing and transforming –
if we learn how to discern them from here and now feelings;
if we learn how to utilize them safely and draw a boundary so we feel them
but don’t act out on them;
if we learn to build our capacity to feel them;
if we follow through and allow ourselves to go through the feelings at the heart
of the wound and out the other side.
Many people are afraid of change . . .
are afraid of the unknown . . .
But we have examples in nature that show us how.
For example . . . the snake.
In regular cycles, the snake sheds its skin.
About a week before the shedding begins,
the old skin starts to lift away from the new skin.
At this point the snake’s eyes begin to become cloudy,
and for the time of the shedding, the snake is unable to see.
The snake is temporarily blind.
And the new skin underneath
that remains after the shedding
is tender.
When we are in this stage of transformation -
of shedding whatever in ourselves and our lives
needs to be let go – it is scary.
We are not used to being blind,
especially without knowing if we will ever see again.
We do everything we can not to be tender, or raw.
But if we can breathe through the blindness,
Breathe through the unknown,
Breathe through any discomfort during the shedding or right after,
Breathe through and allow the process of the transformation
to occur . . .
instead of interfering with the shedding,
we can be a help in our own transformation.
Many blessings as you shed!
Judith
©Copyright 2009 by Judith Barr, MS, LMHC, therapist in Brookfield, CT. All Rights Reserved.
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I really like the snake anaology. thank you.
We are all so afraid of change yet those changes are ultimately what make us who we are, for better or for worse. I too love the snake analogy and am excited to share this with others!
That was such a beautiful piece!Thank you, Judith. I’ll remember the snake analogy too. It’s so hard to decide to take that leap into the unknown, that’s true. But if you don’t, you’ll never know what could have been.
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