Comments on: Mediation: An Empowering Alternative for Separating and Divorcing Couples

By: Georgia

Georgia — Mon, 06 Jul 2009 13:14:00 +0000

For those of you that have never been fortunate enough to experience the mediation process, let me tell you just a little about my story and what a positive impact it made on my life and I hope on that of my ex husband and children as well. We just could not come to an agreement over anything during our divorce proceedings- if I said the sky was blue then of course he would say it was yellow. silly things like that. But our meidator along with our attorneys helped us to reach a positive conclusion to our marriage that I never could have imagined was possible otherwise. Yes I made concessions and so did he but in the end it all felt right. I do not think that either of us walked away feeling like we had lost but rather that we were still able to hold some small part of our family intact and for that I will always be thankful.

By: Hollis

Hollis — Sun, 05 Jul 2009 16:44:00 +0000

Julie, maybe the problem is that there is now too much water under the bridge to turn back. I would think that mediation works best for those just going through the divorce process so that there is time to heal all of the wounds before they have had so much time to fester and grow like in your case. I am not saying that it could not work but sounds like your ex would never want any part of that so it may be that it is best to continue to work through things for yourself and your kids and leave him to his own healing. That is probably not the perfect scenario but it may be the best possible solution for you until he grows up and can learn to heal and move forward.

By: Julie

Julie — Sat, 04 Jul 2009 20:32:19 +0000

Ha! My ex does not even want to be in the same room as me much less make an effort to come to some compromises together. Are there ways to get him to put on his big boy pants and get over all of that for the sake of the kids? I have been trying for five years now and it has not worked yet.

By: Cathy F

Cathy F — Thu, 02 Jul 2009 15:30:41 +0000

As a divorce attorney I encourage many of my clients to try mediation to work out and resolve many of the family issues which inevitably arise in most cases. Sometimes it works and sometimes it does not. But I do have to say that it is a nice way to open up the lines of communication between families once again and nine times out of ten there are at least some situations which find more meaningful resolution in this manner. Better to actually talk to one another rather than all of the yelling and screaming that so often occurs, usually with no positive results for anyone.

By: sylvia sande'

sylvia sande' — Wed, 01 Jul 2009 22:10:53 +0000

wish i had known mediation was an option when i divorced 30 yrs ago. what total drag and waste of money my divorce was.. thanks for the good article nonetheless.. i’m happily married now so i hope to never need to call a mediator. peace