Comments on: Lying in Therapy

By: Elizabeth R.

Elizabeth R. — Sun, 12 Jul 2009 01:00:11 +0000

I feel lying in therapy isn’t always done intentionally. When a person has spent decades struggling with and hiding what life’s thrown at them, is it not a bit too optimistic to expect them to confess all with 100% accuracy at every session? When we tell ourselves something often enough, we come to believe a lie is the truth and vice versa. Patients may lie more because of that than out of maliciousness.

By: ramona

ramona — Fri, 10 Jul 2009 07:26:32 +0000

every client has his rythm. some client tell every think from the beggining, other lying from the beggining and other lyie 3-4 session and at the finish of the 4 session with the hand on the outside door can tell you ,,…and I want to tell the trues next session”. we work with the client’s material and even when they lie there is something true inside ( how they want/need to be there life). Of course , as therapist you think that you are on the wrong path but there is nothing wrong here. when the client will have the courage to tell you the real true HE WILL. I can wait because i know that finally most of them will tell. Adler’s father tell to Adler when he was little:,, don’t trust words, trust in movement” so look of the movement of the client and that is the real TRUE/BIG REALLITY for the present moment.
ramona covrig, psychotherapist

By: ninabe werness sandot- yoga therapist

ninabe werness sandot- yoga therapist — Wed, 08 Jul 2009 02:32:07 +0000

I feel that we all really need to try to change the limited parameters of our beliefs.
Lying is a perception…a right and wrong idea that says…the therapist is right and the client is wrong….
This whole thing has to shift.
Basically, no one gets to play God…
We all need to just support each other through loving unconditional regard…..that means no judgment.
It is only via unconditional Trust that limitless acceptance can be practiced so as to reach a condition of freedom through mutual respect and dignity.
This concept of someone doing something to us….
is about the seer. We are all free to allow choice to determine our environments….We live in America!

By: Donna

Donna — Tue, 07 Jul 2009 18:16:06 +0000

That is an interesting way to look at things. . . the lies are a part of the patient and need to be dealt with as well. But I have to say that I would feel compltely duped and misled if I learned that someone was doing this to me and I think that I might have a hard time trusting them again. And if the therapist and patient have no trust with one another than how can there ever be true healing?

By: ninabe werness sandot- yoga therapist

ninabe werness sandot- yoga therapist — Tue, 07 Jul 2009 01:22:36 +0000

According to Yoga Science and lots of existentialists, not to mention plain old quantum physicists….’it’s all made up anyway’.
Reality is definately about the perceiver and an agreed upon perception lense.
Lying is a form of reality somewhere in the person….
Its all pointing to patterns….
I use it all to support health and sanity………….
blessings
ninabe

By: Olivia

Olivia — Mon, 06 Jul 2009 13:10:01 +0000

Surely a seasoned therapist can see right through a charade like this?

By: Grayson

Grayson — Sun, 05 Jul 2009 16:40:37 +0000

There are probably some people out there who know that they need help but until they get to know their counselor they are ashamed or embarassed to really open up and decide to lie instead. Or maybe they do not think they need to be there so they make up all kinds of stuff. Who knows what the reasoning is but the bottom line is that if someone feels the need to lie then in therapy is probably exactly where they need to be. Sounds like there are definitely some issues to be resolved there and maybe when they begin to feel more comfortable in the situation they will stop covering with the lies and will let everything out so they can get help or resolution.

By: Nicole M

Nicole M — Sat, 04 Jul 2009 20:30:41 +0000

Lying in therapy? Really? That seems like an awful lot of time and energy to throw away, with nothing good to gain from that/ Why would someone do something like that? Isn’t therapy where you should feel like you can release all of those inner demons and feel free to be who you are?

By: sylvia sande'

sylvia sande' — Sat, 04 Jul 2009 02:37:03 +0000

isn’t it really all baout the relationship? the better the sense of trust and acceptance, the less likely one is to lie to their therapist? i think it holds true for me exp in therapy