My Approach to Helping
How would you feel if your days, moments, relationship(s) and SELF were not hijacked by feelings over-flowing from stress and anxiety?
My therapeutic focus: well intended but anxious humans; possibly struggling in life's transitions, dealing with abandonment issues, understanding adult attachment, deepening relationships, and repairing childhood voids.
Most of my clients report feeling less emotionally heightened and more self-assured within a few sessions - together.
I partner with couples and individuals to address issues such as life transitions, anxiety, depression, relationship ambivalence, feeling stuck, communication issues, chronic conflict, and other issues.
Together, we cultivate awareness of feelings, thoughts, and emotional triggers, allowing our time of "holding space" to cultivate deeper insights and consider new choices between the stages of struggle and growth.
My style is direct but warm, nurturing, and supportive. Together, we uncover and process new awareness and themes. I encourage a therapeutic relationship rooted in safety and trust, so that we can more fully explore emotions that feel overwhelming or inaccessible.
My goal is to help you achieve personal freedom and independence, so you can lead a life of purpose and meaning.
More Info About My Practice
Therapy is a time and place where we can slow down and take a closer look at the obstacles and difficulties we face in our lives. I strive to create an environment of safety, non-judgment and compassion in order to make room for uncomfortable or overwhelming emotions. I work holistically to help clients understand the sources of their suffering and integrate all aspects of their lives into a harmonious and balanced well-being.
During the therapeutic process, you'll discover things about you and your life that you didn't know before, experience your feelings beginning to change, and discover new possibilities and solutions.
Focused on awareness of unproductive ways and systems of stress, I bring a mix of compassion, hope, and a clear therapeutic approach for helping clients on their own journeys. Specializing in Anxiety, Abandonment issues and Life Transitions. As your therapist, I'll strive to help you uncover tangible solutions.
Specific Issue(s) I'm Skilled at Helping With
* Learn to communicate and listen better
* Deepen the level of intimacy and connection within the relationship
* Gain insight to the repetitive negative emotions and corresponding hurtful reactions that you engage in together
* Learn how your histories impact your relationship and to be proactive in promoting relational health
* Better resolve frequent misunderstandings in your relationships
* Reduce conflict, learn triggers, and develop strategies for navigating arguments
* Find support for the relationship during life's transitions into marriage, parenting, marriage after children, separation, or reconciliation
I am passionate about helping couples create secure functioning partnerships based on healthy communication, connection and play. My work with couples is based on Stan Tatkin's Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy (PACT), which combines attachment theory, neurobiology and arousal regulation to help couples better understand their patterns of relating and how to support each other more successfully.
As a PACT Therapist (Level 2), my work is experiential and strategic. Looking at the ways we were programmed to connect in childhood, I help partners understand these processes and adapt new ways communicate and grow as a couple. With a deeper understanding of each other, I support couples in navigating their struggles more successfully, deepening their connection, and having more fun together. This therapy is short term and goal focused, based on strong research. As with my other work, I weave in my style, which is direct, empathic and playful.
Because of the experiential nature of this therapy, sessions are longer, lasting between 90 minutes and 3 hours. We are able to make significant changes in these longer sessions, and as a result we often do not have to meet as frequently.
"In our couples work together, we will focus on creating a true secure partnership, based on principles of justice, fairness and sensitivity. The work is collaborative; with a commitment to one another's well-being to resolve conflict. I see breakdowns in long-term relationships as a non-pathological process. We will build understanding of how early coping strategies lead to current reenactments of our historical relationship patterns; resulting in misattunements, misunderstandings, repeated cycles of injurious behavior, and failures in repair. In this experiential approach to therapy, you will practice new ways of relating and repairing, to create a more supportive, meaningful, and secure relationship. Whatever the conflict, your experience that your partner has your back will give you the strength and energy to better manage your concerns."
*** Susan Stork, LCPC, NCC is currently enrolled in a three-year Couples Therapy training program with Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT, the founder of A Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy (PACT), who developed the advanced PACT system to offer effective treatment for the most complex, challenging couples.
For more information about PACT, go to: http:thepactinstitute.comdividedpagewhat-is-pact
My Role as a Therapist
I embrace active listening and a client-centered approach, striving to balance practical solutions and self-exploration while offering a trusting, safe environment in which change can occur, and allowing the creative therapeutic process to unfold.
I rely on a range of lenses, including humanistic theories, attachment theory, mindfulness, experiential education, strength-based therapy, and trauma-informed approaches. I am committed to therapy and helping others, and believe in allowing my clients to come as they are, receive support, and reach their highest potential. I see therapy as a collaborative process, and offer my clients honesty, compassion, patience, and insight.
Life is hard, and sometimes overwhelming. With guidance, it's possible to transform difficulty, pain, and doubt into growth.
Therapeutic Focus: Anxiety, Abandonment, Conflict at work & school, Couples & family-focused therapy, Relationship challenges, LGBTQIA+ issues, Sexual Health, Trauma, and within life's many transitions. Advance Training: PACT Couples Work Brainspotting (Certified) for trauma work and creative outlets.
What I Usually Need to Know to Help
Where in life are you struggling with barriers OR seeking MORE? Within self, in career work, at school, with family, with friends, and or in romantic relationships?
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