My Approach to Helping
“This isn’t how you expected grief to feel.”
“You truly don't know who you are without this person.”
“Life just feels dull now.”
”Everyone else has moved on and it just seemed like you haven’t“
One moment you have ideas about how your future will look and the next, all of those expectations are called into question. Suddenly you may not be able to do things you have previously framed your identity around, go about day-to-day life as you once did, or feel like you can trust your body and its capabilities.
Maybe everyone is telling you you're “strong,” when you’ve never felt more vulnerable. Perhaps you’re realizing those close to you have a different idea of what you should do next or feeling like they simply can’t understand what you’re experiencing. You may also be grieving life “before,” experiencing depression or anxiety about what’s next, or find yourself isolating from others. You want to find some kind of balance, a way to provide for others while still caring for yourself, doing things that give you satisfaction and enjoyment, maintaining relationships, and finding joy in the day-to-day.
Loss comes in many forms in life: from the loss of loved ones, to the loss of our physical health, to the loss of connection, stability, or relationships. Each is a unique journey, one that looks different from person to person. Maybe you’re in survival mode: fighting just to stay above water in the day to day. Or perhaps you feel like you don’t recognize yourself: more angry, less motivated, or experiencing emotions that feel completely foreign. Your grief may be so overwhelming that you don’t even know what you feel. Whatever you may or may not be feeling, it is valid, it is okay, and it is very welcome here.
Allowing yourself the opportunity to share these things—to process the questions, express the emotions, and explore what the future can hold—can be pivotal in coming to a place of peace and acceptance about the things you cannot control, as well as empowerment and confidence about the things you can. You don’t have to choose between your responsibilities & your own wellbeing. We’re designed to rest, slow down, and recharge. I'm here to help you do exactly just that.
You want to be seen, witnessed, and heard without judgment by another human being. You want to show up as you are, how you are, and where you are. You desperately want a place that feels separate from the chaos of your life: a place where you can rest, breathe, and find yourself again. Many people don’t realize that burnout is actually accumulated grief and trauma: grief about the losses you witness & experience yourself and trauma surrounding the way these losses take place. Sometimes these things build up slowly over time, without you noticing...until, suddenly, it feels like too much. For many people, it’s hard to quantify this kind of loss or put a finger on it—its presence is subtle, but persistent. and when you have the time and space to identify these things, acknowledge the impacts, and get support in coping with them, life can be brought back into balance.
If this is you, then I can help. My approach to therapy includes holistic, body-based methods—strategies that can help us get more quickly to the root of your feelings and address them. I don’t believe you would need years of therapy to make forward progress on your journey; instead, I want to support your mind and body in moving more quickly through the necessary steps to begin experiencing change in your day-to-day life. Regardless of the method(s) you and I decide to use, you will always be the one guiding our work together. You can choose how little or how much to share, what you want to focus on in specific sessions, and what our goals will be. Our work together will be full of compassion, empathy, and trust. I’ll hold space for silence and discomfort and honour exactly where you are in the moment, while gently encouraging you to go out of your comfort zone when you are ready. Through it all, I will meet you exactly where you are and support you in the growth you seek.
When you're ready to move through, click the message button and we can start our work together.