My Approach to Helping
During therapy consultations, most people say that they want a therapist who won't just sit there and nod at them. That makes a lot of sense to me. Starting with a new therapist takes a lot of courage and most of us wouldn't do it unless we need real help. Most hurt and trauma happens in our relationships with others and in order for therapy to help you need to be able to trust that your therapist is with you. When you and your partner talk with me, you'll have my full attention. We'll make connections between what's happening now and what happened in your past experiences. We'll also work on feeling less shame and more safety. If we're doing couples work, both of you will know that I hear and care about you.
I'm easy to sit with. I like people and I'm funny. My clients tell me that they feel like they can tell me anything. You won't learn too much about me personally but you'll know a lot about who I am because the therapeutic relationship is a big part of what heals us. That means that I'll have thoughts and reactions and I'll share them kindly and carefully.
You'll get to know yourself and your relationship better and that will mean that you can feel more connected. Most of the couples and individuals who work with me find that their relationships are stronger and more satisfying and that they feel less shame, fear, and sadness.