Psychotherapy, Coaching, Counseling
I'm a licensed professional.
LMHC - MH9510
Dating and Relationships: After having dated unsuccessfully myself for many years, I embarked on a quest to find out what it was I didn't know about men, love and relationships. And to my great surprise, I discovered that there is indeed a formula! There is a formula for successful dating, for making sure the relationship progresses to marriage (if that is your relationship goal), and for building a wonderful, fulfilling marriage and life with your spouse. I am happy to report that the formula worked for me, and I am now happily married. While I have lots of experience helping my clients with a variety of issues in their lives (from depression and anxiety, to trauma, and parenting skills), my favorite thing to do is to help people attract and create the love relationship of their dreams!
I watched a movie the other day about the mentoring relationship between Freud and Jung, and I was struck by a disagreement they had. Freud felt the main purpose of therapy was to help patients understand why they are the way they are. Jung on the other hand felt that while that is an important part of the work, our role as therapists goes beyond that. We must also help people develop a vision of who they can become. I agree with Jung (but I still like Freud - he had a lot of good ideas).
My best advice is: come in for one session and then decide. It's like trying a new food. Sometimes it can be scary, and we think we won't like it, and we try it and are happily surprised. Either we like it a lot, or at least, it wasn't as bad as we anticipated. Since research shows that most people are helped by therapy, why not give it a shot!?
Well, it's important because nobody likes to talk to a robot. Your therapist should be a real person, who treats you like a real person. If you feel that your therapist is genuine and trustworthy, you are much more likely to open yourself, stay in therapy, and actually get better.