Attraction, Addiction or Love?
March 23rd, 2009 |
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Many people confuse the feelings involved in attraction or relationship addiction with the feelings involved in love. Attraction is the first part of growing toward a love relationship. I use the phrase “growing toward love” because the idea that any one “falls in love” is a fallacy. Although attraction is an important part of a relationship, it is just the beginning and cannot carry a relationship for a long time. We all change with time. Part of attraction is the adrenaline rush many confuse with love. That adrenaline rush can be addictive. A lasting relationship cannot be based on physical attraction or addiction to an adrenaline rush.
Our highly commercialized, capitalistic society has romanticized attraction to an extreme. When we believe the messages in “their” music, tv shows, movies and more, “their” income increases. “They” are opportunistically trying to make money, whereas many (naively, sadly), believe “them.” Yes, we know that, but are we always conscious of how much we believe their psychological sales pitches and how deeply it affects us? Self awareness grows with practice.
Relationship addiction can easily be confused with love. A person can be addicted to another without knowing it. A persons lack of self-awareness and self-understanding often results in denial their thoughts, feeling and behaviors. This can be misleading and confusing for the recipient of the addictive relationship behaviors. A few warning signs include; Read the rest of this entry








