Paul D. Kai Swigart, Ph.D., M.F.T. Marriage Counselor

Helping couples survive and flourish is one of my passions. As a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (MFT) in Hawaii and California, I have provided relationship counseling for nearly twenty five years with an ever-growing belief that nearly all relationshis are worth fighting for, and that couples often do not realistically consider what life would be like following a divorce or breakup. The disposable mentality now permeating our culture makes it difficult for couples to sustain life long intimacy and commitment. I believe that most couples can succeed if they make saving their relationship their highest priority. As a therapist, I work with people’s strengths rather than emphasizing their weaknesses. I help them see that what they experience as the problem may well be a step toward the solution. We often laugh, cry, and ponder together because we are all people with hearts, minds, and experiences. I am gentle yet direct, sometimes leading and sometimes observing while you lead each other. Being welcomed into the sacredness of a marriage is, for me, both an honor and a privilege. Helping you create a sanctuary of trust and safety within which you can face those challenges and fears together, within which each of you can take responsibility for your part in the solution, would be, for me, an honor. ... show more