My Approach to Helping
I am a systems therapist, which means that I work from a perspective that a person or family is affected by everything around them: friends, family, coworkers, school and work environments, and social groups. All of these and more influence how we think, act, and respond to stress. I try to gather as much information about all of these things as possible to be as aware as possible about the total systems influence. Often it is appropriate and necessary to utilize other therapies so as to find the best fit for my clients.
More Info About My Practice
Bearings is a veteran-owned business dedicated to helping military (active and reserve), veterans, and first responders with the difficulties they face in family life. Whether you need help with regular issues common to every family or couple, help coping with the rigors of military life, or the aftermath of trauma, Bearings will be there to help you find your way. You are my brothers and sisters in arms, and we never leave someone behind.
Had a Negative Therapy Experience?
I often tell my clients that going to a therapist is like taking your car to a mechanic. If the mechanic doesn't understand how the car works, or can't fix it, you don't give up on the car. You find a new mechanic. Therapy is no different. If you didn't like your primary care doctor, you'd switch and find a new one, right? Don't stay with a therapist after 3-4 sessions if you don't feel comfortable by then. Don't give up on your mental health just because one therapist wasn't a good fit.
Why Going to Therapy Does Not Mean You are Weak or Flawed
Choosing to take care of yourself is the most important decision you can make for yourself and everyone around you. I have been around a lot of veterans who served in a climate that taught that admitting you were having trouble dealing with something meant you were weak. That's a hard belief to overcome, but it is absolutely necessary. In recent years, even the military has learned that mental health is just as important as physical health.
Asking for help is the hardest thing to do. Just look at you. You're not even sure you should tell someone you need help. "I can do this on my own," you think. Then you get lost in the woods, shadows following you, and you don't know where to go next. It doesn't mean that you can't find your way home. You just need a guide, a sign that points you in the right direction. A therapist is a compass, a north star, to help you find your way home. A therapist can't walk that path for you, but they can show you the way. That kind of work takes bravery and determination. That's not weakness. That's strength.