My Approach to Helping
The Trauma Alchemist
Alchemy: The act of transmuting lead into gold.
If the weight of your trauma is holding you down like lead; come discover the magic of Trauma Alchemy or finding the Golden Shadow. Did you know that in all the parts of you that have been repressed due to shame, dysfunctional family systems, not fitting in etc., those are the parts of you that are the most tender, they hold the creativity, wonder and awe. This is the you that has a zest for life and lives with authenticity and passion. Trauma Alchemy is the act of reclaiming those parts of you that have been subjugated, and in transmuting the lead into gold, you see the trauma through a new lens. The very things that have been holding you down, transform into the strength to lift you up, like the Phoenix rising from the ashes. There is more to your story and you know it!
Sometimes you need an expert. Especially when it comes to recovery from Narcissistic, and other forms of emotional abuse. If you or someone you love is suffering from abuse, don't go it alone.
Drawing from a deep well of education and my own personal experience healing from Narcissistic abuse; I use a 3 pronged approach to help you move from surviving to thriving. 1. Psycho education so you can finally understand what happened, why, and how to identify red flags so you can prevent it moving forward. 2. Internal Family Systems, so you can heal the attachment wounding that attracted this type of relationship in the first place. 3. EMDR, to really resolve the trauma, heal from the projections of abuse, and recover the aspects of self that were wounded by the abuser or perhaps still attached to them.
Another passion of mine is helping couples have the relationship that matches the love that is in there hearts. One of the greatest griefs I see is when two people who love each other can't seem to make it work. The sad truth behind this is that none of us were taught how to be in relationship. Most unions break down because of a lack of skill, not lack of love. That's actually the good news because skills and a new way of relating can be taught. It brings me great joy to see couples who truly love each other have the relationship that accurately reflects what is in their hearts.
A subset specialty of mine is Autism Spectrum in relationships. Spectrum disorder is often confused with Narcissistic abuse in relationships. Meaning, that Spectrum folks unknowingly display behaviors that feel like abuse. This is unintentional and comes from a very different place than Narcissistic abuse, but can feel identical. The main difference is that Spectrum partners don't know they are doing it and are often horrified to find their loved one has experienced so much pain at their hands. To complicated matters, most Spectrum adults are not aware that they are on the Spectrum. Awareness and diagnosis of this are just now coming to light.
It is very treatable, however. If you suspect that you are on the Spectrum, or that your partner is on the Spectrum don't throw in the towel right away. I've had amazing success at treating this in relationships. See the YouTube link where Dr. Ramani discusses the difference between Narcissism and Autism.
Death and Bereavement:
I have a unique perspective on death. My best friend crossed over and came back. I love listening to her talk about her experience with death because it is freeing from fear. There is more love and joy in the process than we could ever have imagined. If you are struggling with grief from losing a loved one, or are in the process of a loved one crossing over, you may benefit from hearing the experience of someone who has walked the path and returned. I know it helped me find peace with death.
Finally, I love working with Trauma. I know that sounds like a funny statement. But it's easy to love the work when I see people recover. Time and time again, I get the honor of witnessing people overcome trauma that seems insurmountable. It is a joy to watch the transformation as people heal and create a even more beautiful life than the one they had before the trauma began.
Call today to begin your journey of healing and recovery.