My Approach to Helping
Have you found yourself making the same mistakes in your personal and professional life? Are you stuck in an unsatisfying relationship or job, where you feel unable to move forward? Do you have the tendency to keep rehashing past mistakes? Do you feel anxious or depressed as a result? If your answer to either of these questions is "yes!" and you're eager to free yourself from long-standing unhelpful behaviors, then psychotherapy can help you find the answers you seek and the tools you need to promote growth and change in your life.
As a psychotherapist, my initial goal is to make you feel comfortable, validated, and understood; everything else we accomplish in treatment will follow from this basis. Once we start working together, I will blend supportive and insight-based psychotherapy with practical perspectives and techniques and use this this approach to help you cope with everyday challenges and see how they relate to long-standing behavior patterns. I will help you articulate your questions, clarify your confusion, formulate your goals, and find a greater sense of purpose and peace of mind.
In my therapeutic work, I integrate the many facets of my professional career - which have included positions in the corporate, academic, and educational sectors - with general life experience. In working with you, I will draw on these diverse experiences, and this will allow me to connect with, and relate to you, irrespective of your background, race, religion, or class, and provide you with culturally sensitive treatment.
More Info About My Practice
If you have no insurance, my fee is $200
My View on the Purpose of Psychotherapy
My treatment specialties include mood disorders, depression, anxiety, traumatic stress, sexual, physical, and emotional abuse, as well as issues related to life transitions, career counseling, dual diagnosis, self-esteem, the search for identity, meaning, and purpose, and personality disorders, particularly Borderline Personality Disorder.
Had a Negative Therapy Experience?
While therapy should always feel safe, nurturing, and validating, this may not be the experience you had in the past. Your therapist may have been consistently late, may have had difficulty remembering the details of your case, or may have tried to force an interpretation on your issues that you disagreed with. Whatever the issue, remember that one negative psychotherapy experience in particular, does not invalidate the process of psychotherapy in general. Instead, it highlights the fact that so far, you just haven't found the right therapist for you. So if you find yourself turning away from therapy based on a negative experience, I urge you to think again. The issues that brought you to therapy in the first place are still there, and there are some wonderful therapists out there who can help you work through them. This time round, though, choose a service such as Good Therapy to obtain some advance information about your therapist, and in addition, try to find out whatever you can about the therapist from online reviews and personal website material. Once you're in therapy, pay attention to any warning signs that the process doesn't feel right, and be mindful, also, of some resistance at work within you that may be making you less receptive to the process of therapy. So don't give up - your efforts will ultimately pay off, and help you find the therapist that's right for you!
Why Going to Therapy Does Not Mean You are Weak or Flawed
Very often, people will have misconceptions like these about therapy: "seeing a therapist means you're weak or crazy!" or "therapy is for people who can't work out their problems themselves," or "I must have hit a real low if I need a therapist!"
The truth is, though, that seeing a therapist is a sign of strength, rather than weakness. Admitting you have a problem you can't handle by yourself, accepting you need the tools to manage your confusion, loneliness, or doubts, and realizing that you need more help than your significant other or family can give you, these are qualities that demonstrate your strength of character, unselfishness, and desire to grow. So if you're ready to see a therapist to get help with your issues, kudos to you for showing who's really strong!
Importance of the Client-Therapist Alliance
No matter what kind of therapy you go to, or type of therapist you see, the one thing every theory and therapist will agree on is the importance of the client-therapist alliance. As a therapist, my first task is to connect with you, irrespective of differences in our backgrounds or circumstances. Once that connection, or alliance is there, it will allow you to feel greater trust in the therapeutic process and the work we do together. And connection + trust = deeper work and greater growth.