My Approach to Helping
You may be educated, even outwardly successful, but struggle to feel good about yourself, have difficulties with close relationships or just want more out of life. I believe it's human to struggle and that we all can benefit from self-exploration.
Your mind is like your GPS for living, so you'll benefit from efforts to make it as accurate and glitch-free as possible. I can help you get a deeper understanding of you - your psychology and how your mind works. In the context of your history and cultural experiences. Therapy with me is not a one-size-fits-all experience. With greater self-awareness, self-compassion, and realism, your life's journey can involve fewer self-inflicted detours as well as greater tolerance for the inevitable bumps along the way.
You may desire higher self-esteem, or less anxiety, or to feel more comfortable with closeness or vulnerability. Or you may want to improve your communication skills or work on parenting. The better you understand your operating system - your sensitivities, anxieties, and patterns of reacting - the more skillful you'll become in responding to life's inevitable challenges. Everyone in your life benefits, not just you.
With humor and compassion, alongside extensive training and 20 years of experience in private practice, I'll help you develop the self-awareness, skills and solutions that you need so that you can grow from your struggles and live up to your potential. My approach is flexible and practical, tailored to meet your needs for getting at the root of what is getting in your way.
More Info About My Practice
My office is located in San Rafael but for now, all appointments are telehealth via video. Please see my website for more information about my services, approach, background and fees.
Even though therapy offers a chance to make long-lasting positive changes in your life, I know that finding the right therapist and starting psychotherapy is often a difficult decision. I invite you to contact me to assess your needs at no cost by phone. There are no forms or paperwork to fill out, so why wait to start feeling better? I welcome your inquiry and look forward to hearing from you.
Important Factors for Choosing a Therapist
I feel for those considering therapy. Something isn't feeling right in your life, you've come to consider getting help, possibly even pushing through shame around getting help. And next, you must navigate what kind of help and with whom?!
Therapy is a significant commitment of time and resources. In this very moment, you may be recognizing that there are many, many therapists and types of therapy from which to choose. Self-help apps abound alongside new and traditional types of therapy - how does one decide? You might look to insurance for direction, only to discover that coverage is extremely limited. Getting started can truly feel like a shot in the dark.
Finding a meet in person, talk therapist may quite likely involve your needing to contact and consult with more than one therapist. Especially if you're trying to use your in-network insurance benefit as these plans reimburse therapists so little that many skilled and experienced therapists don't bother with insurance or restrict their involvement such that many are not accepting new clients.
While this may sound pessimistic, don't despair. I hope reading this helps you to be realistic in recognizing that choosing a therapist is a process of finding someone who is the right match for you. You'll need to be your own advocate. It's not uncommon for someone to try out therapy with a therapist who wasn't a good fit, but to then mistakenly conclude that therapy doesn't really help them. Which unfortunately may contribute to a sense of hopelessness and resignation.
Ask for referrals from trusted friends or colleagues. Our mental healthcare system is broken so unless you have excellent insurance, be open to paying for therapy out-of-pocket. If cost is an issue, ask prospective therapists if they offer a sliding scale or if they can recommend a skilled therapist new to practice who will offer a reduced fee. Logistics matter - finding someone with a fee that you can afford and at a time that works with your schedule are mission critical.
What does a good match feel like? Overall, you should feel comfortable sharing thoughts and feelings with your therapist, and your initial sessions should inspire hope, curiosity and cooperation. Your therapist should offer you something new. If you're feeling too uncomfortable, bored, hopeless or reluctant after your first meetings, you should consider seeking help from someone else with whom you might find a better match. Because when you do find a skilled therapist who is a good fit, therapy can be a truly life changing and rewarding experience. Good luck!