Natalie Spautz, LMFT

You're often fighting or feeling distant from your romantic partner. Small issues can become a big deal and conflict remains unrepaired. Perhaps you've tried many strategies to stop these difficult dynamics. You feel frustrated and need to find new ways to connect, resolve, and find each other again. Maybe you notice after fighting, that distance between you feels lonely and doubts about the relationship start to increase. It's like the fights get out of control and one or both of you say things you regret later. Deep down, you know what's been happening isn't healthy, and that you both need help and perspective. It might feel far away right now, but you know you need to try something radically different if you're going to change the relationship that means so much to you both. I can help you develop new tools so you can finally feel reconnected and nourished instead of depleted and disconnected. Whether you begin therapy individually or together, change is possible. As your guide, I commit to supporting you in healing the past and building a strong foundation to support the well-being and happy future you seek. My approach is supportive of developing a connection to your inner self so that you can communicate from your heart. Practicing an attitude of curiosity and acceptance, my goal is to build trust with you and to understand your unique experience. When working together, I aim to help you feel respected and understood. I truly believe in the healing powers of self-discovery, self-acceptance and offering these to others in close relationship. I strive to help you cultivate nourishing relationships with yourself, others and connect more to the world around you.

I have extensive specialized training in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy and the Developmental Model for Couples Therapy along with several other couples modalities including Gottman Couples Therapy, PACT Couples Therapy and Relational approaches. I also use a holistic perspective that includes inclusivity, anti-oppressive and and social justice values. I draw from each of these to create a personalized way to help you and your partner. I truly enjoy working with the depth of feeling and passion that couples bring into my practice. Couples therapy can be a helpful opportunity to enter into a conscious and reflective process with your partner to heal past hurts, improve the quality of your communication and intimacy, to learn about yourselves and your relationship and to discover new ways of relating that support and nourish in times of need. When two individuals are naturally growing at their own rate, in their own ways, there are periods of time that occur where the relationship needs extra effort and intention from both to support each other and reconnect by aligning the growth process and helping both get back on the same page. Being in romantic relationship can also bring up unprocessed needs or experiences from the past, just by it's nature of fostering attachment and closeness. When we let someone into our hearts, our vulnerability, growing edges and sensitivities become very clear. Starting to untangle the complexity of your interactions and spending time to mend and maintain the health of your relationship are very important steps that can make all the difference in finding that deep satisfaction you are looking for with your partner.