My Approach to Helping
It is important to me that all people are valued and treated with compassion and respect. I feel very honored that the people I meet allow me to share in their lives--the strengths and good that they have, the difficulties, the things that are important to them, the pain, the confusion, and the journey to wellness and wholeness. The counseling process is different for each person who I see, and I encourage people to think continually about what it is that they want to overcome, develop, learn, and change. I emphasize that people are in control of their progress. I may be at times the facilitator, cheerleader, idea person, teacher, listener, or biggest fan. As we travel together on your journey, we celebrate small successes and big victories and we work through challenges to help you feel better.
More Info About My Practice
My primary location is in Danbury, CT at Firehouse Court, 7 National Place, Ste. 1. It is a small but comfortable space on the main level--there is only one step to enter the waiting area! This office is situated next to Danbury's City-Center Green where you may enjoy concerts, fairs and other events. If you wish to enjoy a meal, there are many restaurants of a variety of tastes in the immediate area. Parking is easy, either at a metered spot ($.25 for 15 minutes using quarters or your debitcredit card) or you may park in the Patriot Garage across the street. If you choose the garage, you may bring your ticket in and have it validated.
Additionally, I share an office with New Milford Counseling Center in New Milford at 56 Danbury Road, Ste. 8. This is also a lovely and relaxing space, but is up a flight of stairs. Parking is free in the rear of the building, which is also where the entrance is. It is conveniently located just south of the Bridge and Big Y, and is next to McDonald's.
Why Going to Therapy Does Not Mean You are Weak or Flawed
So you are finally ready to admit that there is something in your life that is causing discomfort or getting in the way of being a happy, productive, fulfilled person. But does that mean there is something wrong with you? What if other people find out that you're not perfect? Why can't you just "Snap Out of It?" If you really stop and think about it, Life is a series of ups and downs, mountains and hills to climb, celebrations, trials and tribulations, calms followed by storms followed by calm, and more celebrations. It can be difficult and painful at times, especially if we don't have all of the "tools" or positive support we need to get through the bad times. There are lots of reasons why we may not have the appropriate tools to deal with our struggles, and by coming to therapy, we can learn new tools, uncover and build on skills we already have, and get rid of some that are not helpful. Everyone can benefit by having additional support and insight. The difference is that you are willing to ask for help. That doesn't make you "flawed." That makes you someone who will do what it takes to succeed and be happy.
Importance of the Client-Therapist Alliance
I have learned over many years that the specific techniques therapists or other helping professionals use are not as important as the alliance or relationship that can be developed between the client and the therapist. People seeking the assistance of a professional may have difficulty trusting others, especially new people, due to past experiences where they might have been hurt and disappointed. So how do you open up and let this new therapist get to know you and even divulge your secrets? First, you need to be comfortable with the therapist and feel that you are being listened to and respected. Then, you might choose to open up in a burst of built up emotion that just needs release. Or, it could be a gradual experience, letting the therapist see little pieces of the inner you over many sessions. You are in charge of how much you are willing to trust the therapist. Your ability to work together with the therapist, to share, to listen, to try something new, to evaluate you efforts, and to continue to participate in guiding the process, will build the alliance between you both which will help you move toward your goals.