My Approach to Helping
I like to help people change their lives. Most of the time we go along doing things the way we already know how to do them, and it's a rare and beautiful thing when someone has the courage to look at how they're living and to make a change. That change might be accepting who they are; it may be changing how they live; and it may be some of both. No matter which, I have a deep respect for the work my clients do.
Sometimes the change is about a situation--confirming that a partner is abusive--but most of the time the change is an "inside job": "Why do I keep choosing abusive relationships?...have a hard time expressing my feelings?...push away the people who love me?...drink too much?...always feel dissatisfied?"
I like to work with my client's experience "in the moment" (uh oh, woo woo alert!). What I mean is that I'll ask clients to slow down and pay attention to what's happening with their emotions and in their bodies as they're talking about something important. I believe that paying attention to that experience in the moment can lead us to profound insights and deep change.
During a decade as a college counseling center director and another couple decades in private practice, I've worked with a huge variety of concerns. I don't have a strong preference for this issue or that; I just like to work with people who want to collaborate in a full partnership, who are willing to explore their immediate experience, and who long for meaningful change.
Thanks for taking a minute to read this, and considering doing some individual or couples therapy with me. For more information, please go to my website. Thanks, Lee