My Approach to Helping
I specialize in helping couples to strengthen and recover their relationships. There are times in all relationships when partners don't feel loved, wanted, or understood they way they need to be. This leads to fears, feelings of hurt and sadness. Reactions to protect yourselves from these painful moments of disconnection can lead to cycles of arguing, make it harder to work together, and lead to distance and relationship distress. Relationship injuries such as betrayals, past hurts from before the current relationship, and other factors can make these cycles of conflict worse.
Sessions with me will be an opportunity to try something different. I don't give a lot of advice, rather I try to choregraph sessions to help you and your partner work together in new ways. It is my job to help create a safe space for counseling and to guide sessions toward what works for you according to your own styles of communicating and connecting. I use a model of therapy called Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy. In my experience, most couples who use the strategies from this therapy experience a lot of success with making things better!