My Approach to Helping
My approach is relational, trauma-informed, and affirming. I integrate EMDR, attachment theory, and psychodynamic insight to help gay men heal from early wounds, shift long-standing patterns, and reconnect with who they really are.
Many of the people I work with are high-functioning but stuck—caught in cycles of perfectionism, struggling with intimacy, or questioning their identity in new ways. Together, we explore how your past is shaping your present, and we build emotional tools for greater clarity, connection, and self-trust.
Therapy with me is warm, collaborative, and engaged. I show up authentically, and I invite you to do the same.
On the Fence About Going to Therapy?
If you're on the fence about therapy, I get it. Maybe you've spent years learning to survive by keeping things inside, toughing it out, or staying in control. That worked for a while. But if you're feeling stuck, lonely, or like something's missing, it might be time to try something different.
You don't have to be in crisis to benefit from therapy. You just have to be curious about what your life could feel like with less noise, more clarity, and deeper connection to yourself and to others.
Therapy isn't about admitting defeat. It's about giving yourself the chance to live more honestly, and more fully.
How My Own Struggles Made Me a Better Therapist
There was a time when I thought I had to be perfect, invisible, or endlessly accommodating just to be accepted. Doing the work to untangle those beliefs, to face grief, and to embrace who I am changed everything for me. That struggle allows me to sit with others in theirs with real care, no judgment, and a deep belief in their capacity to heal.
Why Going to Therapy Does Not Mean You are Weak or Flawed
For so many gay men, strength has meant staying quiet, performing confidence, or handling everything alone. But real strength is letting yourself be seen--not just the polished parts, but the vulnerable ones too. Therapy isn't about fixing something broken. It's about unlearning the messages that told you you had to be someone else to be enough. It's a powerful step toward living more fully, freely, and on your own terms.