My Approach to Helping
Individual and Couple sessions informed by attachment theory, trauma and when needed sex therapy are provided in my Columbus Circle office. I am certified in EMDR and trained in Neurofeedback and Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy. These are 2 of the key treatment modalities recommended in the book, BODY KEEPS THE SCORE by Bessel van der Kolk, MD.
My orientation to counseling and psychotherapy comes from a combination of traditional psychotherapy and the newer neurobiological approaches that integrate what has been learned about the how the brain and mind work together (or don't). Another important underpinning of my approach to this work is attachment theory. Attachment theory describes how powerful and important the need to be connected to others is for us as human beings. Sometimes during challenging childhoods, we learn ways to adapt to others that become a part of us and we can carry these sometimes counterproductive adaptations into our adulthood. The agenda of our work is set by you. At the end of our first session, I will ask whether the relationship seems workable for you. If it is, we will schedule another session. You set your goals for our work together and I give my recommendations for how to address the concerns that you have raised. Together we decide how to proceed with the work together.
More Info About My Practice
Sex therapy - Please click on the link to my website for more information about the types of sexual problems I can help with for either you or you and your partner.
Infertility - If you are preparing to begin infertility treatment or are currently going through it I can help. Please click on the link to my website for more information about how I can help.
What I Usually Need to Know to Help
Much of who we are as adults is informed and influenced by what happened to us as children. If we often weren't heard and seen and comforted as children we found our own ways of making up what was missing for us. Frequently the adaptations that we made as children may have gotten us through our childhood, but those adaptations don't don't work so well in adulthood with other adults. This is why it is important for me to understand what it was like for you growing up in your family.
On the Fence About Going to Therapy?
Unfortunately there is still a stigma in our society about getting psychotherapy. And unfortunately
for men, many men are raised with family values that minimize the importance of our emotional life as male human beings. As a result men avoid getting help with emotional challenges and their partners suffer until a relationship or emotional problem reaches a crisis stage. Men die younger because they often avoid getting medical and emotional care. Don't wait until the relationship is over or in crisis to get help.