Preschoolers aged two to five spend an average of more than 32 hours in front of the TV screen each week, according to Nielsen television ratings. A large percentage of them watch TV from 8 p.m. to 11 p.m. (1)
Within the world of television programming for young children, two different views have emerged: curriculum vs. storytelling. External pressure stemming from policies like No Child Left Behind and societal conformity has created a plethora of PBS shows and other child-centered curriculum programming. These shows emphasize cognitive development, with a particular emphasis on math and science. Internal pressures felt by parents and both public and private educational systems often emphasize more academics and less play in the goal of raising children to be successful, functioning adults.
“Kids should be playing. Parents [might] consider play a waste of time, [but] forced learning and academics are not complementary to creativity,” said Robert Sternberg, Provost and Senior Vice President and professor of Psychology at Oklahoma State University. “Parents need to encourage their children to take sensible risks. They need to help their kids to realize that in life there are obstacles that can be overcome through playing and creating in fictional worlds and discovering how things could be.”
Play is good for children and their parents. Parents are often well-intentioned when they overschedule classes and events for their children, but at countless playgrounds, preschool activities, dance classes, sport events, and music recitals parents drive themselves into the ground in an effort get their children started at an early age (a group in Seattle offers soccer classes starting at 18 months). Once at an event parents often take out their cell phones, Blackberries, and smart phones and begin making one phone call after another while their children are engaged in a pre-determined schedule.
The result is an overstructured life, leaving little time for the kind of play that allows dreams and stories to emerge naturally and without effort. Where is the free time for the imagination? Time spent outdoors away from electronics is, for some, a carefully guarded secret.
Parents who feel the pressures of the current economic downturn may find work seeping into every nook and cranny of their lives, whether at home or a child’s sport event. A parent working late into the night often means an electronic substitute and no bedtime story. Technological innovations are here to stay and children’s activities —sports, dance, theater, music lessons—all have potential value.
But things are out of balance. Life is overscheduled; every minute is accounted for; busy is the buzz word of today’s parent and child. More and more children are being medicated for Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder and bullying has increased on playgrounds. (2) In addition, youth are dropping out of the school system at alarming rates.
Children and their parents have little free time and play has become devalued.
Children and adults learn and create by playing. Finding ways to open free time for play is crucial if families hope to create balance in their lives, improve their health, and deepen relationships through intimacy. It is up to parents to question whether they and their children are “busy,” or if they are creating the life they want for themselves and their children.
Finding creative, imaginative activities and sharing dreams and stories with their children can help parents re-create play in their lives and deepen relationships with their children. Remembering how they liked to play as children can help parents bridge the gap they feel between themselves as a “serious adult” and a “playful adult.” Lessening time constraints can create a greater sense of ease by decreasing stress and enhancing the joy shared by all generations.
- Chozick, Amy. (November 5, 2010). The Turf War for Tots. The Wall Street Journal. Retrieved from http://online.wsj.com/article/SB10001424052748704462704575590231467452448.html
- Hammond, Darell. (October 26, 2010.) Is Bullying Getting Worse? Four Preventative Actions for Parents & Schools. The Huffington Post. Retrieved from http://www.huffingtonpost.com/darell-hammond/is-bullying-getting-worse_b_774310.html
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