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My Wife Is Pregnant. What If It Isn’t My Child? February 21, 2014 . 11 Comments
What a complicated, challenging situation you find yourself in! There is no one way you are supposed to feel. I’d expect you to be more than a bit confused. It sounds as if you and your ... Read More
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With Few Shared Values, I Feel Out of Place in My Family of Origin January 31, 2014 . 4 Comments
You are not alone in feeling out of place in your family of origin. Just because we start in one place doesn’t mean that’s where we ultimately end up. As we get older, we often find ... Read More
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How Do I Overcome the Grief from My Husband’s Death? January 24, 2014 . 1,886 Comments
Your anguish is palpable in your writing. It is also totally understandable; losing a partner after 21 years of marriage is utterly devastating. I don’t think anyone can ever really ... Read More
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My Parents Are Divorcing. How Do I Choose? January 10, 2014 . 5 Comments
Even if parents seem OK with a decision to divorce, it does not mean that their children have to be OK with it. Divorce changes a child’s world in a pretty major way. It is OK and ... Read More
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Gambling Addiction Has Taken Over My Brother’s Life January 3, 2014 . 14 Comments
Thank you for writing. The fact that your brother is angry at you for helping his family is a likely indication of how severe his gambling has become. (In addition to his seeking “lower ... Read More
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Is My Secret Safe with My Therapist? How Can I Be Sure? December 27, 2013 . 20 Comments
This is a fantastic question that really strikes at the heart of one of psychotherapy’s cornerstones—confidentiality. You are not at all alone in feeling like you have something ... Read More
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How Do I Get Over My Therapist Having Sex with Me? December 13, 2013 . 89 Comments
Thank you for writing. I am so sorry this happened to you. It frankly makes my blood boil. This breach and exploitation is exactly what therapists are never supposed to do. To me, it’s ... Read More
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Could I Be the Reason Therapy Is Going Nowhere? December 6, 2013 . 7 Comments
Thank you for your letter. I’m sorry to hear that you aren’t experiencing the therapy you’re receiving as helpful, and I hope that I can provide some assistance. I’m going to start ... Read More
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My Partner Is Overly Defensive. How Can I Lower His Guard? November 22, 2013 . 31 Comments
Thanks for your question. I can imagine your chagrin at your husband shifting from what sounds like frequent acquiescence to “no more Mr. Doormat.” The problem, however, is that in ... Read More
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My ADHD Child Hates Therapy. How Do I Get Him to Go? November 15, 2013 . 10 Comments
Great question! I see this dynamic a lot in my own practice—parents or teachers feel a child could benefit from therapy, but the child is reluctant. Therapy is going to be helpful only ... Read More
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My Friend Is Ruining Her Life, but She Won’t Listen to Me November 8, 2013 . 8 Comments
Did you ever hear the saying, “Friends don’t let friends drive drunk”? Friends don’t let friends live their lives drunk, either. From your description, her behavior sounds like ... Read More
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Why Am I So Bitter and Resentful of Other People’s Successes? November 1, 2013 . 29 Comments
First, let me say that I admire your candor, your self-awareness, and your desire to work on this issue. I believe that all of these things will ultimately make you successful in addressing ... Read More
