Category: Divorce / Divorce Adjustment

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Calming the Emotional Chaos of Grief

January 30th, 2012  |  

GTimage0130125 A death, divorce, illness, sudden unemployment, or any major loss, creates chaos in your life. This emotional fracturing, as well as the practical aftershocks of dealing with estates, lawyers, housing, finances, doctors, etc., often yields intense feelings that can be overwhelming. When you think you simply can’t assimilate another thing, it’s crucial to just stop. Even if you have never meditated, simply sitting or lying down and paying attention to your breath will calm your nervous system and give you the literal breather you need. Sometimes, it’s too hard to stay still, so take... Read More

 

Creating Divorce Rituals With Your Children

January 26th, 2012  |  

GTimage0126124 The decision has been made. You and your spouse are divorcing. There are a multitude of decisions to be made, and it is often difficult to know where to begin. You will be making decisions regarding when the children are with you and when they are with your spouse, whether to keep the family home and, if so, who keeps it. There will also be a host of other decisions you did not realize you made automatically on a daily basis that will now become conscious decisions because living in two different homes requires more coordination. While you are addressing these decisions and working to manage your... Read More

 

How to Help Children Cope with a Divorce

January 5th, 2012  |  

MSca-divorce-kids-MH900399506 Divorce may be one of the worst moments in your life, and it will impact everything happening in yours and your children's lives. Many children will experience the pain, frustration, stress, and loss that divorce brings to their lives.  While kids are very resilient, they need help adjusting to a new life when their parents are separated. There are many things that parents can do to help their children with the divorce process. Often, how parents deal during the divorce impacts how children handle their loss. When you break the news of the divorce or separation, keep in mind how you approach... Read More

 

Who Gets Which Friends?

December 9th, 2011  |  

MSca-friends-MH900430900 You're getting a divorce. In addition to the friends you brought into the relationship, you and your ex have made many friends together through your children's activities, your jobs and the places you have volunteered. You both rely on their friendships to help with childcare and have established a social circle that meets both your needs. In addition, you have been talking to these friends about the difficulties you have been having in your marriage and want to be able to keep this support system. It has been so important for you to have close friends to talk to about all the things that have... Read More

 

Adolescents’ Turning Points Turn Out To Provide Positive Benefits –

December 6th, 2011  |  

Turning points are life experiences that permanently change the course of one’s life. The death of a parent, a divorce, or even a geographical move are all examples of turning points that can have a positive or negative affect on an individual. “The most defining characteristic of a turning point, however, remains that the event is perceived as significant or life-changing to the individual,” said Royette Tavernier of the Department of Psychology at Brock University,... Read More

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Commitment Level of Newlyweds Predicts Marital Persistence

November 30th, 2011  |  

Therapy-News-Banner-035-1122131 Just as death is ultimately always the result of a heart that stops beating, the death of a marriage is always the result of marital dissatisfaction. The unhappiness could be caused by infidelity, addiction, loss of trust, anger, or a number of other issues, but divorce usually occurs because one or both partners has reached a point where they no longer find any satisfaction in the marriage. Some committed couples, who are dependent on the marital bond, may eventually throw in the towel as a result of dissatisfaction, and yet... Read More

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Breaking Up on Facebook

November 16th, 2011  |  

online-dating-facebook Social networking websites such as Facebook, Twitter, as well as other means of electronic communications such as texting, are no longer the wave of the future: they are the here and now. Online dating is one of the most popular ways of meeting people and dating these days. We get to weed out people we are incompatible with by really getting to know them online, and then add in the last senses of touch and smell if and when we decide to meet someone in person. This is actually an old way of developing connections. Pen pals, and dating long distance where phone conversations and letter sending... Read More

 

Harness the Power of the Marriage Bond

November 9th, 2011  |  

couple-content I knew a couple whose divorce cluttered up the Broward County Courthouse for 10 years. That was before I went back to grad school for my doctorate but I kept thinking, “Surely something could have been done to release this couple from each other’s clutches.” There was. One party escaped the country and I never heard the rest of the story. It shouldn’t have to go like that, but it often seems to. Couples who are sick of looking each other in the face tenaciously cling to each other in court. Does that really make sense? Think about it: The person you want to have the least to do with... Read More

 

Does Previous Trauma Experience Affect Adjustment After Divorce?

November 3rd, 2011  |  

Therapy-News-Banner-035 Divorce occurs in more than fifty percent of married couples. For some people, divorce causes an immense amount of stress that can result in negative health conditions, such as depression and decreased social functioning. “Although most adults ultimately fare well following the end of marriage, which is consistent with humans’ general capacity for resilience in the face of difficulty experiences, a subset of people become stuck on pathways of long-term stress and strain,” said Jessica L. Borelli, Ph.D., of the Department of Psychology at Pomona... Read More

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How Parents Make it Difficult for Children to Love Their Other Parent

November 1st, 2011  |  

Hands of parents fighting over their son each pulling him their way. There are many ways in which one parent can influence how their children perceive their other parent. Often this is a positive experience for the children as they learn to appreciate both of their parents for what they each provide individually as a parent. Other times, this is a negative experience, especially during a divorce, making it very difficult for children to manage their feelings of loyalty and have loving relationships with both parents. It is sometimes the case where one parent is truly a danger to their children and should not have access to the children as determined by a court of... Read More

 

Religion as a Coping Strategy for Divorce?

October 21st, 2011  |  

Therapy-News-Banner-035 : Divorce can cause emotional and financial distress, and a sense of extreme loss. But for individuals who have deep religious faith, divorce can have a positive and negative effect. “Research suggests that those who divorce experience increased psychological distress, such as greater depression and decreased happiness,” said Elizabeth J. Krumrei, of the Department of Psychology at Pepperdine University. “However, it is also possible for divorce to relate to beneficial changes and personal growth.” There has been extensive research on how various factors, including social, economic,... Read More

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Don’t Fall Into the Trap of the “Relief Divorce”

October 5th, 2011  |  

happy couple I have been in practice long enough to see many couples and families develop over the past thirty years. While there are countless stories over a full range of topics, one that greatly interests me involves divorce. Many couples and individuals have come to counseling after divorcing 15, 20, or 25 years earlier. Most are quite happy in their current lives and marriages. Many, however, have looked back on their previous marriage with one very powerful observation:  Their original divorce did not need to happen! What an astounding realization! Not only was I impressed by their honesty, but... Read More

 

Five Rights Your Children Should Have in Your Divorce

September 23rd, 2011  |  

five rights children divorce We know that when a marriage ends it is the parents who are divorcing. But do we think about the fact that our children aren’t getting a divorce, they are getting two households in which to continue living with their family. Their parents relationship is changing to something different than they have yet experienced. What do you need to think about so that your children are taken care of as well as possible? For some, the question is what rights do children have in a divorce? Here’s a list that is a good place to start. 1. Children have the right to live in a conflict-free zone. Your children... Read More

 

Veterans Who Prematurely End Couples Therapy at Increased Risk for Divorce

September 7th, 2011  |  

Therapy-News-Banner-035 Military personnel are exposed to situations that put their relationships under tremendous stress. Statistically, veterans of recent wars have divorce rates that have increased by more than 30% in the past decade. “Not surprisingly, problems in interpersonal relationships are one of the most common reasons for seeking mental health services within the Department of Veterans Affairs Medical Center system,” said Brian Doss of the University of Miami. Doss, along with colleagues from Texas A&M University, recently conducted a study to... Read More

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